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I know what you think, but she did have a good heart somewhere in there. If not as my sis said who's got alot of experience she did a damn good job of tricking you. I come from a very respected good family. At this point friends are telling me I'll ruin my life if I continue to think about her.
That's EXACTLY what women say about their abusive partners! Stockholm syndrome, OP. Get help.
Some of your posts sound like you're thinking of this as if it were a legit relationship. "We could have made it work", etc. Truth: you were in a fake relationship. She was playing you. And she's a severely damaged and manipulative person. It was all an illusion, but you're hooked into it as if it had been real. The whole thing has messed with your mind in a major way. Try to recognize that fact.
Far from a manipulator. You're not really providing anything instructive with all due respect. Please re-read my earlier or first posts to understand where I am.
Wow... Okay thinking of it that way. AND IF that is really true. All that love, the three years, weren't love at all. Then that's enough fuel to not care about that person any longer. Truth is I have knock on wood felt really good these past few days. But mornings are the worst when waking up. I used to fall asleep at her place all the time. We were all about cuddling and falling asleep together. So maybe that's why. I still can't fathom why she chose to try to destroy my character then literally just went no contact. She basically kicked me while I was down, wanted to destroy me. She succeeded for a month, but enough is enough. FYI I am seeing another women now.
Far from a manipulator. You're not really providing anything instructive with all due respect. Please re-read my earlier or first posts to understand where I am.
Trust me, you are in no place to judge.
You made a bad choice, and now you're suffering the consequences. You'll get over it.
Agreed. I took a step back, slowing down this relation with this new girl.
A few things have come to me since creating this post.
1. Having a conversation with a female online isn't exactly cheating. Emotional cheating is when yo have an emotional connection. "Hello how are you" is not emotion cheating. Does it ****ing suck and rank high in hurtful yes.
2. She unnecessarily treated me like **** and put me through hell. She was not understanding nor supportive. She was not a good candidate for a healthy relationship with a healthy person.
3. Her going NC is the biggest blessing I could ask for.
I feel great, I'm happy again, confident, working hard, working out, new lease on life! New chapter! Her physical image and sex, drama, drew me in at one point but at my age it's not what I need in a life partner. I just wanted to thank everyone for there feedback. Loving this will forum and will continue to use it.
I would consider speaking to some random chick online as emotional cheating, unless that chick had already been discussed as a platonic friend in a previous discussion.
It sounds like you need to see a therapist. Judging by your posts(they're all over the place, btw), you're definitely suffering and in need of some help.
When I see one of my buddies go down this route, I do a few things for him.
1. Get him back on the train
2. Do a bunch of hobbies/guy stuff to help him find himself again.
Life is short and they're plenty of females out there. The thing is they won't want to be with some dude who is not happy with himself. Find your happy place.
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