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Location: Somewhere in a Field of Hopes and Dreams
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Originally Posted by bebe182
That's probably easier for a woman who sleeps with plenty of men, but for women who don't sleep around that much, not so easy to just be like "oh well, who cares that I just got treated like crap".
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Originally Posted by bebe182
I don't think sleeping with a guy after a month of dating him warrants saying she's a woman who sleeps around (I know you said "usually", but no)...
As for him not trying to be a jerk, or his reasoning behind it who cares, it's not like he tried to make it up to her, or even called her on the phone to sincerely apologize for his behavior, he sent measly text, which doesn't quite cut it after you've treated a woman like crap.
Whoa whoa whoa, I was responding to your clever statement, not the OP. As you put it, it's probably harder for a woman who doesn't sleep around to forgive and forget, I'm only pointing out that women who don't sleep around aren't usually going to do it within a month of knowing someone. It's a broad generalization but a rather accurate one from a logistical stand point.
I just don't think your previous statement is a fair one to make.
And I'm not surprised he didn't reach out, I imagine he feels humiliated over his short start and finish time.
I would agree with you if it was a one night stand or a fun buddy, maybe even a FWB type deal although that would be pushing it because even then they are supposed to be friends.
But she has been dating this this guy for real like for a month. They finally take the next step forward in their relationship... She gets out of bed to go to the bathroom... Is gone for "less than a few minutes"'(her words)... And the guy she just vetted before sleeping with has jumped out of bed, gotten fully dressed, and is standing by the bed having laid out all her clothes as if to say "okay, you can leave now"' IN THE TIME IT TOOK HER TO PEE. Lord.
Dude. How do you not feel like a piece of meat? That's what you do to a hooker. LOL. Not someone you've dated for a month.
These were my thoughts. I enjoyed spending time with this person and was looking forward to the next stage (the physical part), so yes, I'm surprised and disappointed with how things unfolded this past weekend. I hadn't been with anyone for several years prior to this because I hadn't met anyone I wanted to have a relationship with, so that is adding to the overall feelings of disappointment and "hurt" that I feel.
Location: Somewhere in a Field of Hopes and Dreams
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Originally Posted by Sonic_Spork
I can see some reasons for this kind of thing like if one or both of you were a smoker and going outside to smoke for instance.
But the more likely thing in my opinion is that he lost it after 5 minutes, and was embarrassed about his "performance" (so many men are incredibly stupid about this) and figured it was all awkward then and laying about naked would just make it MORE awkward and you'd probably never want to have sex with him again. The weird smile was probably an awkward smile, and the apology was probably for being "bad" in bed. He probably figured you went to the bathroom to get away from him before you laughed at his sheer lameness at sex.
This is how I see it. But the OP instantly assumed she was the issue when to me the keyword all along was he lasted 5 min.
I just wish people would talk to each other and be clear on what is right and wrong with a relationship. I hate the games people play. Even if you're going to end things with someone, there are ways to explain it without coming off like a total jerk, and then at least the person maybe has some insights about themselves to work on for future relationships. It sucks when you can't get a clear answer out of someone and it leaves you feeling insecure and full of questions and hurt. I've definitely been treated like this, recently, and I hated it.
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These were my thoughts. I enjoyed spending time with this person and was looking forward to the next stage (the physical part), so yes, I'm surprised and disappointed with how things unfolded this past weekend. I hadn't been with anyone for several years prior to this because I hadn't met anyone I wanted to have a relationship with, so that is adding to the overall feelings of disappointment and "hurt" that I feel.
That's what I thought. Like I said, there is a WHOLE LOT MORE to this story.
You had a LOT of misplaced emotion attached to this encounter, and your (yes over-) reaction reflects that.
Middle of the night, no less! Ha! what a class act.
Did he at least walk you to your car? (I think I already know the answer to this)
Ha, thanks, I know....
Reading the comments has been helpful if nothing else. It's interesting to hear people's views and while some have been off-base in their analysis of me (a stranger on the internet) and the situation, I still appreciate the feedback.
He walked me out of the building, but not to my car which was across the street. I think he only did this because of the way the building was set up so to speak. Thanks again for your comments, bebe.
Really?! Because half the posts here are about guys who won't go past date 1 without getting sex. Makes me think the only reason the guy was waiting was because he had 5 other women on the line at the same time, tiding him over until the OP was okay with it. Then he was on to the next.
That's what I thought. Like I said, there is a WHOLE LOT MORE to this story.
You had a LOT of misplaced emotion attached to this encounter, and your (yes over-) reaction reflects that.
My thoughts as well.
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Originally Posted by timberline742
So the OPs really out of practice. It takes a bit to get back in the saddle.
Yep. Exactly. Always good to find out the entire context.
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