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If you want to sleep with him, but you don't want a one night stand, go with it and hope for the best.
That's the only logical answer I can give. But seriously, that's what it's sounding like at this point. At least he was honest enough to let you know what's up.
I wouldn't bother putting any energy into this guy, if you're not down with that sort of thing and don't want to feel like a piece of meat as you put it, I'd bail big time if I were you.
Right, but the only acceptable 'sex talk' at this stage should be him talking about how much he loves performing snip] on a woman. And then actually follow through. Hone your skills men, you're gonna need them to keep a woman..
Conventional, "normal people" answer is...the guy just wants to hook up, and bang ya, he's hoping you're all kinds of freaky, and that's that. If you don't just want to hook up and get laid, then bail on this dude.
Sucks to be the chick in these situations. I know I'm beating a dead horse on this, but I think it's annoying old male perpetuated rules of "this is just how it is" that keep this going. A gal might see a man, she'd like to have sex with him, he's the whole package she's looking for in a sexual relationship, but if she's upfront with that fact, she's "cheap." Gotta pretend to be a "good girl" who oh, no, would NEVER actually enjoy sex...and blush and fan her cheeks and clutch her pearls and lead him a merry chase until he "earns" the right, and then pretend that he, and only he, released the wild thing within that *gasp, surprise* discovers how fun it is to do the horizontal mamba. Whaaaat-ever.
I don't mind having sex talk for a while, in fact the more the better, before a first date. Because if I'm getting the sense that fella and I aren't going to be a good match in the sack, then I would rather not have to take a test drive to find that out. Sexual compatibility does matter. But unfortunately, given how men typically operate, OP, if you want to see him more than a time or few, you should probably make him wait. And if all he's after is sex, he might not be happy to wait. Your call.
Cancel. Beyond him being a d-bag and clearly stating he wants to hook up immediately...he also could be the type who makes it seem like "sure, up to you" but then forces you to once you're with him. Bail. Besides him being an obvious loser he could also be dangerous.
Conventional, "normal people" answer is...the guy just wants to hook up, and bang ya, he's hoping you're all kinds of freaky, and that's that. If you don't just want to hook up and get laid, then bail on this dude.
Sucks to be the chick in these situations. I know I'm beating a dead horse on this, but I think it's annoying old male perpetuated rules of "this is just how it is" that keep this going. A gal might see a man, she'd like to have sex with him, he's the whole package she's looking for in a sexual relationship, but if she's upfront with that fact, she's "cheap." Gotta pretend to be a "good girl" who oh, no, would NEVER actually enjoy sex...and blush and fan her cheeks and clutch her pearls and lead him a merry chase until he "earns" the right, and then pretend that he, and only he, released the wild thing within that *gasp, surprise* discovers how fun it is to do the horizontal mamba. Whaaaat-ever.
I don't mind having sex talk for a while, in fact the more the better, before a first date. Because if I'm getting the sense that fella and I aren't going to be a good match in the sack, then I would rather not have to take a test drive to find that out. Sexual compatibility does matter. But unfortunately, given how men typically operate, OP, if you want to see him more than a time or few, you should probably make him wait. And if all he's after is sex, he might not be happy to wait. Your call.
While there is still a bit of that little dance you describe going on, I don't think it's like it used to be, it's getting more and more acceptable for women to more forth coming with their sexuality, etc etc.
There's a difference between being a bit flirty and a bit sexual and some guy you barely know talking about doing [bleep]....
Surely everyone could agree on that, given the current context of what's typically socially acceptable at this juncture in the dating scene.
I personally would never initiate conversations of a sexual nature first, that way you avoid situations where you can make a woman uncomfortable.
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Conventional, "normal people" answer is...the guy just wants to hook up, and bang ya, he's hoping you're all kinds of freaky, and that's that. If you don't just want to hook up and get laid, then bail on this dude.
Sucks to be the chick in these situations. I know I'm beating a dead horse on this, but I think it's annoying old male perpetuated rules of "this is just how it is" that keep this going. A gal might see a man, she'd like to have sex with him, he's the whole package she's looking for in a sexual relationship, but if she's upfront with that fact, she's "cheap." Gotta pretend to be a "good girl" who oh, no, would NEVER actually enjoy sex...and blush and fan her cheeks and clutch her pearls and lead him a merry chase until he "earns" the right, and then pretend that he, and only he, released the wild thing within that *gasp, surprise* discovers how fun it is to do the horizontal mamba. Whaaaat-ever.
I don't mind having sex talk for a while, in fact the more the better, before a first date. Because if I'm getting the sense that fella and I aren't going to be a good match in the sack, then I would rather not have to take a test drive to find that out. Sexual compatibility does matter. But unfortunately, given how men typically operate, OP, if you want to see him more than a time or few, you should probably make him wait. And if all he's after is sex, he might not be happy to wait. Your call.
Good Synopsis SS on modern Male/Female encounters and courting. If it was two women or two men they would probably just go to town.
OP - you really have such low regard for your own instincts that you have to ask us if you should cancel a date with an obvious creepster?
Really?
Some people should not attempt OLD and I suggest youre one of them OP.
You're like a fresh prawn just laying out there for all the seagulls to swoop and gobble up!
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Hone your skills men, you're gonna need them to keep a woman..
Whaaaat-ever.
