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Originally Posted by LowonLuck
Regardless, I have tried dating single dads and not had much luck there either.
No, but you won't for the reasons we've gotten into in a dozen other posts.
Of course, whether they are single parents isn't that relevant. Lots of single parents don't want to date people with children either. Like you once didn't.
Oh, trust me, IT IS! Especially when you play the stepfather role for years and leave a relationship empty handed and with no appreciation. One experience was all it took for me to realize that I will NEVER raise kids that don't belong to me.
The same suckers who go to coffee dates would probably be OK with raising somebody else's kids.
My one child has no father and my youngest is not allowed to see his father, so whoever I date is the only father my kids are around. I am also not looking to date for a little while. I want the husband that helps me raise my kids, then we retire and share our lives traveling and pursuing our passions.
Is this normal or have I just not met the right woman? How hard is it to find a cute girl who loves sports, working out, being a foodie and the shows walking dead and game of thrones? Am I like this because most my hobbies are heavily male dominated?
A friend of mine was widowed earlier this year. She was a stepmother to his children for 15 years. Now that their father is dead, she doesn't see them very much and is very sad about it. I can totally understand the trepidation about bonding with someone else's children.
My kids crave a father figure. I take them fishing and try to be both mom and dad but I can still see that they want a father.
I find people of all sexes like talking to me. It is my superpower. Although I definitely remember when I was younger. And more obsessed with sports and video games, there was a subset of boys (and this is when they were still boys) gave me huge amounts of cool points.
These days it is sufficient staying involved and staying active to find stuff to talk about. I like talking to everyone. You always have something in common somewhere. You just have to find it. I don't see any gendered versions or conversationalists. Though people who are attached to their phone like a second limb generally suck at conversation.
This is me.
I can talk to anyone about anything.
Men, women, whatever.
You'd be surprised that if you have an open mind you will find something interesting in almost any topic.
No, but you won't for the reasons we've gotten into in a dozen other posts.
Of course, whether they are single parents isn't that relevant. Lots of single parents don't want to date people with children either. Like you once didn't.
I didn't want to date single dads because of the issues with the moms. My exes childrens moms loved me because they knew their children were being cared for on the fathers visitation.
I also want a father figure for my children, and it seems like my kids were jealous of the attention my ex gave his kids while ignoring mine. I did equally for all the kids.
Narcissism. You only want to do, talk about and watch things that interest you. You don't have what it takes for a relationship even if you could ask a woman out.
Exactly. OP is a completely average mid-20s guy, and that's fine, but his ideal woman is an average mid-20s guy with boobs. An average mid-20s woman is probably going to like Taylor Swift, if she works out she'll prefer yoga and spinning to lifting, and she'd probably not want to spend all of Sunday in front of the TV watching football (and yes, I know, #notall20somethingwomen) Until the OP learns out to care about other people and not think what he doesn't like is stupid and pointless, he's never going to be able to have a functioning relationship.
Considering you don't seem to actually talk to women due to your crippling insecurity and anxiety, how on earth do you know what they are interested in? Food, sports and popular TV shows aren't exactly esoteric interests.
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