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Please give some examples of what you do to be "too-nice".
Sorry this response is so late.
My girlfriend & I were out to dinner when the guys next to us began talking to us. Eventually my friend invited them to my house!! I should have said no. My friend & one guy went for a ride in her new car. The other guy tried talking me into going upstairs, until my friend returned. Of course I politely refused. I found out a year later he was telling people I had begged him to go upstairs & it was all he could do to get out of there. What an ego!!
Other times I've become a personal taxi, went out of my way to visit someone very ill, lent money, arranged job interviews, allowed one to stay in my guest room for a month.
No offer to contribute to gas, ended up being rehab not ill, loan not repaid, quit work with no notice, wouldn't move for 3 months.
Each situation was a different person. And I did learn from each experience. Still, none had the right to do what they did. Trying not to be so nice anymore.
My girlfriend & I were out to dinner when the guys next to us began talking to us. Eventually my friend invited them to my house!! I should have said no. My friend & one guy went for a ride in her new car. The other guy tried talking me into going upstairs, until my friend returned. Of course I politely refused. I found out a year later he was telling people I had begged him to go upstairs & it was all he could do to get out of there. What an ego!!
Other times I've become a personal taxi, went out of my way to visit someone very ill, lent money, arranged job interviews, allowed one to stay in my guest room for a month.
No offer to contribute to gas, ended up being rehab not ill, loan not repaid, quit work with no notice, wouldn't move for 3 months.
Each situation was a different person. And I did learn from each experience. Still, none had the right to do what they did. Trying not to be so nice anymore.
Yeah, you can be too nice. In your case, you have trouble with boundaries.
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