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So moving to where he would have a good job and a nice place to raise kids was a compromise on your part how?
yeah, the kindergarten aide job is not gonna cut it. You scored well with a guy whose family gives him such opportunities! Are you going to step it up a little and get a real education or do you want to be the aide forever?
Cant blame a guy for not wanting his wife to dress slutty. Party time and getting attention from other men shouldn't be more important than the vows you made at the altar.
Ugh. Did you even read what she wrote? Obviously not.
Yes, he's controlling. You better nip that in the bud now.
Marriage counseling can work. Give it a shot. Not a good idea to break a marriage over issues that can be resolved. I can see his point about getting insecure with your dressing style & male friends who are hitting on you. Would you be comfortable if his female friends call him & flirt with him? Put yourself in his shoes & try to understand why he is behaving like that. Don't label him an abuser if you would act exactly like him in same situation. You made a commitment to work it out with him. If you think you made a mistake then break it off & move on. But don't expect the next guy to be comfortable with your male friends calling you & strangers flirting with you. Some boundaries need to be set to protect you & your relationship. See if you can involve some close family & friends to weigh in on the issue. If you are craving your freedom & feel suffocated in the relationship then you are wasting your life as well as his. You might have got married too early & feel like there is more out there. Nothing wrong in feeling like that but you need to end one chapter before you start the next.
I'd say the two of you are doing a good job of pushing each other's buttons.
May I suggest counseling to determine why you are torturing each other? Some things are too complicated to figure out or resolve in an online forum.
Good luck.
He is controlling, and it will just get worse. I don't see anything wrong with going out with friends, and I think flirting is natural, now people will say once married no one should flirt, notice others etc, but I think it is normal. I am sure women notice my husband, heck he probably even talks to women when he is out with friends, but I trust him, and vice versa. People who go on about never flirting or noticing others, are usually the ones who are cheating themselves. I go out dancing with friends, and I am much older than you are! I like to dance and hang out with the girls once in a while. Isolating you from friends, telling you how to dress, and what you can or cannot do, is controlling. I presume you were like this when he married you. This is a problem I think, people marry someone thinking they can change them.
So what was your point for getting married? You could have remained single and been living the Caribbean life whatever thats supposed to mean. You know darn good and well that wouldnt work if it was him doing the caribbean thing. The only person you should be hot and spicy for is your husband. Sounds like your trying to make him jealous and then on his case when he is. You both should be heading your own way. Your not what he really needs and thats TROUBLE with a capital T. Sorry no sympathy here. Really sick of the mentality of nothing changes when you get married except the residence.
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