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I was doing the back and forth talking thing with a guy on OkCupid and after so many back & forths on there I told him he needs to send me an email if he wants to continue our talks. I got a smart @ss comment back from him that said, "Okie Dokie". I knew when I saw that that he was offended by my request to move our discussions to email and I knew he would not contact me again. He had already indicated that he would like to meet me sometime! But was unwilling to reveal his email address. I consider that a red flag. And so I say to myself, 'good riddance'. What do you all think?
If you think it is a red flag then it is, personally I would think nothing of it but I don't give out my email or my cell number to anyone I have just met or been chatting online for a brief period of time with.
Well to be fair, it kind of doesn't make sense. You're already technically emailing each other on the site. Messaging through your email client just seems like a lateral move. Why didn't you tell him to text or call?
If you think it is a red flag then it is, personally I would think nothing of it but I don't give out my email or my cell number to anyone I have just met or been chatting online for a brief period of time with.
Even someone you have said you would like to meet? I'm not going to meet ANYONE who will not give me those things. No way. He said he would like to meet me. But can't email me. That is ridiculous and suspicious. Like what am I going to do with his email address - sell it?
Well to be fair, it kind of doesn't make sense. You're already technically emailing each other on the site. Why didn't you tell him to text or call?
I am on this too. Or possibly ask to get together somewhere for a date. I could see not wanting to give out personal info in case you meet, and it doesn't go over well. Then they don't still have any of your personal contact info.
Well to be fair, it kind of doesn't make sense. You're already technically emailing each other on the site. Messaging through your email client just seems like a lateral move. Why didn't you tell him to text or call?
I didn't want to give him my phone number if he cannot give me his email address. That's all. I'm not a text person (I'm 52). I don't even have a very smart phone. Yes, I can text with it, but it's tedious. I am a desk top person who took typing and I like a real keyboard to write with. Clearly he wasn't that into the idea of meeting me, so I have no feeling of loss. Just saying, for ME that is a deal breaker.
Even someone you have said you would like to meet? I'm not going to meet ANYONE who will not give me those things. No way. He said he would like to meet me. But can't email me. That is ridiculous and suspicious. Like what am I going to do with his email address - sell it?
I cannot read this color font so I will just say again, if you think it is a red flag then it is and it appears from your first post you have made that decision so the rest of the thread will be your justifications as to why you are correct.
What giving you email supposed to accomplish? You expect it to have his first and last name? Or anything more personal? I have about dozen emails for all purposes. ..
You are already talking with him on OkCupid. Emailing isn't much different.
I agree with others - you already made your Ming. So, why are you asking us?
I cannot read this color font so I will just say again, if you think it is a red flag then it is and it appears from your first post you have made that decision so the rest of the thread will be your justifications as to why you are correct.
I'm sorry you can't read blue font. It's a long time habit of mine to put my posts in blue. I wanted to know if women in particular find it suspicious for a man to say he'd like to meet you but be unwilling to send you an email. It's as if he is worried that I'm going to do a background check on him using his email, and I probably wouldn't but even if I did, is he worried I might find something bad?
I didn't want to give him my phone number if he cannot give me his email address. That's all. I'm not a text person (I'm 52). I don't even have a very smart phone. Yes, I can text with it, but it's tedious. I am a desk top person who took typing and I like a real keyboard to write with. Clearly he wasn't that into the idea of meeting me, so I have no feeling of loss. Just saying, for ME that is a deal breaker.
Maybe he's afraid that you'll be one of those people who sends email forwards of jokes that have been around the Internet for years?
I don't know what to tell you. Is that how you left it? He just never emailed and you never heard from him again?
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