"Im old enough to be your mother" (dating, wife, women)

[sportslover]

Guys, if you wanted to approach a woman (wherever, not necessarily a bar) and ask her out/get her phone number (im not talking about online, but offline),and she gives you the "Im old enough to be your mother" or some similar response, does it 'hurt' you to hear that? How would you react/how have you reacted? If you really wanted to pursue her, would that comment make you back down?

I am in my 26 and have often noticed myself to be attracted to women old enough to be my mom (I know...no rude comments please) and I know I would get that kinda reaction when apporaching these women so I wanted to know from other men how they deal. I find it easier to talk to them and they stimulate my mind more, although, there is nothing wrong with women my age, except I just dont find 20-somethings that attractive, physically or emotionally, anymore..I wish I could. Its hard going against the grain of society.

[samston]

Do what you want to do, and don't care what anybody else thinks.

[Coolhand68]

Originally Posted by introspective1

Guys, if you wanted to approach a woman (wherever, not necessarily a bar) and ask her out/get her phone number (im not talking about online, but offline),and she gives you the "Im old enough to be your mother"

Tell her you want a raise in your allowance.

Honestly, why should it hurt, you don't know her? Besides, not many women are willing to just give out their number that easily. Talk them up, get to know them a little. Eventually you'll find one who is looking for a younger man. There are plenty of cougars...ahem...older women out there who would be happy to befriend a younger man.

[funymann]

Originally Posted by introspective1

Guys, if you wanted to approach a woman (wherever, not necessarily a bar) and ask her out/get her phone number (im not talking about online, but offline),and she gives you the "Im old enough to be your mother" or some similar response, does it 'hurt' you to hear that? How would you react/how have you reacted? If you really wanted to pursue her, would that comment make you back down?

I am in my 26 and have often noticed myself to be attracted to women old enough to be my mom (I know...no rude comments please) and I know I would get that kinda reaction when apporaching these women so I wanted to know from other men how they deal. I find it easier to talk to them and they stimulate my mind more, although, there is nothing wrong with women my age, except I just dont find 20-somethings that attractive, physically or emotionally, anymore..I wish I could. Its hard going against the grain of society.

I was asked to be at a party with a bunch of young people from 16 to the mid twenties. I was "The Parent."

Well, I was in the kitchen with a couple of friends while the young people were in the livingroom. Then a young lady came in the kitchen...her friend followed her and said, "Oh, you are in here with the "Grown Ups."

Yeah, that hurt. I don't want to be the old person of the group.

[le roi]

Originally Posted by introspective1

Guys, if you wanted to approach a woman (wherever, not necessarily a bar) and ask her out/get her phone number (im not talking about online, but offline),and she gives you the "Im old enough to be your mother" or some similar response, does it 'hurt' you to hear that?

I suppose it's all in the tone, but no, not necessarily - it is a matter of fact that she's old enough, or not.

How would you react/how have you reacted?

I'd hit on someone closer to my age.

I am in my 26 and have often noticed myself to be attracted to women old enough to be my mom (I know...no rude comments please) and I know I would get that kinda reaction when apporaching these women so I wanted to know from other men how they deal. I find it easier to talk to them and they stimulate my mind more, although, there is nothing wrong with women my age, except I just dont find 20-somethings that attractive, physically or emotionally, anymore..I wish I could. Its hard going against the grain of society.

I'd imagine you're facing bigger obstacles than just 'society' here, but good luck with that.

[drsmiley06]

Haha, can't stop thinking of the scene in Animal House where the one frat brother is in the supermarket and happens to run into the Dean's wife. "My cucumber is bigger than your Cucumber." Doubtful! Haha, too funny, and he ends up getting her anyhow, great scene! Nothing wrong with someone alittle older, if anything, it'll make the women your own age alittle jealous too.

[andreaspercheron]

Originally Posted by introspective1

Guys, if you wanted to approach a woman (wherever, not necessarily a bar) and ask her out/get her phone number (im not talking about online, but offline),and she gives you the "Im old enough to be your mother" or some similar response, does it 'hurt' you to hear that? How would you react/how have you reacted? If you really wanted to pursue her, would that comment make you back down?

I am in my 26 and have often noticed myself to be attracted to women old enough to be my mom (I know...no rude comments please) and I know I would get that kinda reaction when apporaching these women so I wanted to know from other men how they deal. I find it easier to talk to them and they stimulate my mind more, although, there is nothing wrong with women my age, except I just dont find 20-somethings that attractive, physically or emotionally, anymore..I wish I could. Its hard going against the grain of society.

I know this is for the guys but as an "older woman" who does often get approached by younger men, I have to say that the times it's happened, I never gave the old, "I'm old enough to be your mother", instead I let them guess how old I was and then went from there. I used to think it was great when younger guys would ask me out and it's not offensive at all and I think it's great when younger guys are attracted to older women. Good for you!

[miu]

If an older woman says that to you, then she's never seriously contemplated dating a man your age. In that case, go slow and work on the friendship and common interest aspects first. Find out what activities she likes to do, then see if she'd be interested in doing one of them with you. Maybe she enjoys jazz music or visiting art museums and galleries. Find a reason to meet up with her at the entrance of the event. Firm up the details and say "it's a date then."

Also, if an older woman says that to you, she is very aware of the age gap. Make sure that you don't do anything with her that might embarrass her. Not all older woman take cougar comments as a compliment. She most likely doesn't want a boy toy, so if you do become friends with her, be good non-sexual friend company also so that her friends won't make fun of her relationship with you.

[PeachyMJ]

My best response to a young one hitting on me is "I've got underwear older than you are." Doesn't happen a lot nowadays - but those were the days! There was, however, one that wanted to take me home for his daddy. That was clasic.

[picklejuice]

You need to think about several years down the line and whether it would be fair to either one of you (an older woman you become involved with) if you become seriously involved and then marry. Which is a possibility whenever any two people start anything. Think about the possibility of one day regretting the twice as wrinkled face you are waking up to every morning.

It would be great to think that that will not matter to you. If you were a woman, I'd say it would matter a lot less, but you are a man. You are sight driven. And even emotional stimulation will not help if the spark goes out in that all important area. Don't lie to yourself.

I'd say look for the needle in the haystack. Try an online dating service like E-Harmony to look for women closer to your age, with like interests. They may be special and rare, but they are out there my friend. Good luck!