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Not many of them seemed to either, according to the dudes I knew in California living near bases.
Not to besmirch military spouses as a whole, but there's running jokes about when the sailors leave town how a lot of women go out and have a good time
Not all of course, but I've dealt with enough military guys over the yrs to hear all of the various stories.
In my opinion, sex should never be used in a reward/punishment fashion. It's how you find yourself in a sex less marriage. Guys, if you see signs of that early on in dating, get out of that relationship as soon as you can.
I think it's another case of assumed exclusivity. OP, learn to talk to people you are dating.
This seems to cause many issues. There was another recent thread where a girl discovered she and her boyfriend were not exclusive when she "assumed" they were.
Talk to him. And in the future, if you think things are going well with a guy, ask him about exclusivity.
In my opinion, sex should never be used in a reward/punishment fashion. It's how you find yourself in a sex less marriage. Guys, if you see signs of that early on in dating, get out of that relationship as soon as you can.
Totally agree with that.
OP, there is no reason to feel used if you are having sex because you want to. If you meet a man for lunch, do you feel afterwards that he was just using you for food? Probably not, because you intended to eat lunch in any case.
I'm actually very attracted to this guy. I think of him when he's not around. But I started not feeling it as much when I found his phone littered with dating sites... I thought we were exclusive but I guess not. I wasn't even snooping, he had them out there in the open. I think just the visual of the sites and imagining him with other women started turning me off.
I mean he's introduced me to his friends and we do stuff outside the bedroom. I don't know, maybe time to have that "talk".
You were not snooping? He just had all of those littered dating sites on his phone and you just *happened* too look at all of them?
Hopefully you do not actually believe that you were not snooping when a lot of phones have to be picked up or you have to lean just right to be able to clearly read what is on the screen....
I'm actually very attracted to this guy. I think of him when he's not around. But I started not feeling it as much when I found his phone littered with dating sites... I thought we were exclusive but I guess not. I wasn't even snooping, he had them out there in the open. I think just the visual of the sites and imagining him with other women started turning me off.
I mean he's introduced me to his friends and we do stuff outside the bedroom. I don't know, maybe time to have that "talk".
Okay...this is wacko. What do you mean by "littered with dating sites"? How does one actually see that on a phone...on that is laying around...? And there is no such thing as being exclusive if you have not already discussed that and committed to it.
Like I said earlier....end this relationship. You don't have any business being in one right now, certainly not with this man.
My sex drive is pretty high so I never feel like I'm being used for sex. The only time I had any doubts about it was when my bf and I did it so much that it made me question as to whether or not our relationship would sustain without it. It did, but he's now my ex for other reasons. Sex only feels like a chore to me when I'm sleepy/tired and he wants it - that's when a compromise kicks in. I don't think you should "hold back" sex, try communicating with your partner and work out something you both can agree on. I actually get turned on knowing I can turn on my bf the moment he sees me and wants sex, but that's just me.
This is me too, for my husband. Turning him on turns me on.
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What do you mean by "littered with dating sites"? How does one actually see that on a phone...on that is laying around...? And there is no such thing as being exclusive if you have not already discussed that and committed to it. 
