The Biggest Thing that Makes Zero Sense about Dating (women, sex, friend)

[TheCovenant]

Half the people I talk to about dating say you have to not care at all for women to be interested in you
The other half say you have to pursue/chase hard because women don't ever make the move


how do you chase/pursue without caring? Doesn't chasing inherently mean you're interested in the woman?

[Dewdroplet76]

You aren't going to like my answer but it depends. It just all depends. There aren't things that always work and things that never work. Every woman is different.

[TheCovenant]

Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76

You aren't going to like my answer but it depends. It just all depends. There aren't things that always work and things that never work. Every woman is different.

well in my case, not chasing doesn't work because I don't ever encounter any easy/natural dating opportunities


but then chasing doesn't work because the women are never interested so what's the answer?

[IntentionsRGood]

Originally Posted by TheCovenant

well in my case, not chasing doesn't work because I don't ever encounter any easy/natural dating opportunities

but then chasing doesn't work because the women are never interested so what's the answer?

Maybe it's your approach? Ask a friend girl to help you practice your technique and to give you pointers on what you're doing wrong.

[mir86]

It means pursue without any expectations, that way you don't care. simple. Boom. 1, 2, 3.

[Akonyo]

Originally Posted by TheCovenant

Half the people I talk to about dating say you have to not care at all for women to be interested in you
The other half say you have to pursue/chase hard because women don't ever make the move


how do you chase/pursue without caring? Doesn't chasing inherently mean you're interested in the woman?

Ah, the question of the day. The hypocrisy that is women.

Basically, you need to pursue without getting too emotionally invested in it. That's what that means. The major issue that I personally have with this is that it leads to me just wanting sex from them. It becomes more of a conquest.

But, hey, women bring this on themselves. So I don't blame myself.

[Auraliea]

Originally Posted by TheCovenant

well in my case, not chasing doesn't work because I don't ever encounter any easy/natural dating opportunities


but then chasing doesn't work because the women are never interested so what's the answer?

Figure that out yourself.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by TheCovenant

Half the people I talk to about dating say you have to not care at all for women to be interested in you The other half say you have to pursue/chase hard because women don't ever make the move how do you chase/pursue without caring? Doesn't chasing inherently mean you're interested in the woman?

Once again you have already been given the answer yet you gloss right past it. *Some* women will like the chase *others* will not. Much like everything in life, sometimes things go your way, sometimes they don't. One small detail for you to ponder: Just because you are interested in the woman you chase does not mean the woman you chase is interested in you.


Now, don't you have homework to get done before school tomorrow? Isn't it past your bedtime?
Pick up your socks and put them in the hamper before you go to bed......

[NewYorker11356]

How could women possibly be interested in you if you don't care about her at all?

I can understand not being overly "obsessed" with her, but to not care at all?

[Gabriella Geramia]

From experience I have found that in the beginning the guy chases a lot and acts like he cares (probably to get in my pants). Then once I'm hooked, he lets back a lot and doesn't seem to care anymore (probably because he's bored by now and has moved on).