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You can't seem to comprehend (or don't want to, more likely) that you are not only NOT helping your son, but rather enabling him to continue being a lazy mooch. He will never grow his own spine if you continue to provide a safe haven and resting spot for him. I truly feel for your husband - he must have the patience of a saint. I warn you, however - one day your husband is going to reach his limit with both of you and you will NOT like the results. I'm sure you won't "hear" this as you haven't "heard" anyone else's responses either though. Sheesh!
He's my son so excuse me if I want to help him in any way I can.
There is helping and there is crippling. Helping a 19 year old is offering suggestions, not holding his hand while he does anything, forcing him to do what is right, or accommodating their lazy and self destructive ways.
He's my son so excuse me if I want to help him in any way I can.
you won't live forever. What will your son do when you are gone? You are not teaching him to live without you. You might be helping him now but when you are gone he will fall much harder because you failed to teach him how to do things on his own.
WOW, you'll never believe what he just told me. In response to his email we've had some back and forth conversations and I sent him an email asking if he had expected his daughter to just lay around all week and do nothing. She's home from college on spring break so if he expects my son to work then I expect the same from his daughter. He said that there's a difference between my son and his daughter. His daughter is away at college taking a full course load while my son is only taking one graphic design class. he says there's a major difference between the two. I look at it this way. Not that his daughter is at a major college and my son is taking a class but that they both are in school so they both should be treated the same.
WOW, you'll never believe what he just told me. In response to his email we've had some back and forth conversations and I sent him an email asking if he had expected his daughter to just lay around all week and do nothing. She's home from college on spring break so if he expects my son to work then I expect the same from his daughter. He said that there's a difference between my son and his daughter. His daughter is away at college taking a full course load while my son is only taking one graphic design class. he says there's a major difference between the two. I look at it this way. Not that his daughter is at a major college and my son is taking a class but that they both are in school so they both should be treated the same.
Yet again, your husband is right.
There is a major difference in taking one class and a full class load.
OP is enabling her son, and abusing her husband in the process
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