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Lol, I'm sorry, but if a guy asked me to dinner and then went on to ask me to pay my own way, I would probably laugh in surprised disbelief and tell him not to worry about it, we don't have to go to dinner. (I would feel the same about it if a woman asked in this manner, by the way.)
I always wonder how often people are dating, and with how many different people, for the cost of dates to be such a problem. I'm being serious. And it's been brought up again and again, why not just go get a drink or coffee or something, that way you don't have to ask your date to kick in some cash.
Lol, I'm sorry, but if a guy asked me to dinner and then went on to ask me to pay my own way, I would probably laugh in surprised disbelief and tell him not to worry about it, we don't have to go to dinner. (I would feel the same about it if a woman asked in this manner, by the way.)
I always wonder how often people are dating, and with how many different people, for the cost of dates to be such a problem. I'm being serious. And it's been brought up again and again, why not just go get a drink or coffee or something, that way you don't have to ask your date to kick in some cash.
This is just me, but I'd rather pay half for food and drinks than to go on some cheap, boring coffee date (I don't even drink coffee). And even when I do meet people at Starbucks, I pay for my own tea.
This is just me, but I'd rather pay half for food and drinks than to go on some cheap, boring coffee date (I don't even drink coffee). And even when I do meet people at Starbucks, I pay for my own tea.
If that works for you then good.
I think like Sea posted if you're a serial dater and going out it can get expensive to do full blown dinners out. I think if I were in the dating world I'd probably suggest happy hours. You can get a cheapo appetizer for 5 or 6 bucks and have a couple of drinks at reduced prices and you're not out a lot of money and there's less pressure, in my opinion. I've been out of the dating game since Jesus was a carpenter so I may be off base here.
You'll learn as you gain more experience with women, OP. Every successful man in dating knows there's a certain amount of a mans salary that is allocated when it comes to dating. And if you're thinking of breaking your piggy bank to date, then you should reevaluate your priorities.
This is just me, but I'd rather pay half for food and drinks than to go on some cheap, boring coffee date (I don't even drink coffee). And even when I do meet people at Starbucks, I pay for my own tea.
Oh, I would too, but if you can't really afford to take someone to dinner, and that's fine if that's the case, I don't think you should half-a** it. Seriously, I would never ask that of someone I invited to dinner. I just couldn't do it. And if I did, I'm sure I would visibly cringe as I did so. lol
I think like Sea posted if you're a serial dater and going out it can get expensive to do full blown dinners out. I think if I were in the dating world I'd probably suggest happy hours. You can get a cheapo appetizer for 5 or 6 bucks and have a couple of drinks at reduced prices and you're not out a lot of money and there's less pressure, in my opinion. I've been out of the dating game since Jesus was a carpenter so I may be off base here.
Yep, if I were in the dating world, that would be perfect to me. More fun, less pressure, low cost.
And then, if you're hitting it off and sparks are flying, you can always go ahead and get dinner. (But who pays? lol)
Also, Sweet Like Sugar, I always forget that I think I'm looking at dating from a different viewpoint than a lot of the posters here. I'm much older than you, and back when I was dating, online dating either didn't exist or wasn't really a thing yet. You basically just met people IRL, and if you found someone you really liked, you asked them out. With online dating, I assume, you have more of a "selection" of people to choose from. It just sounds to me like people are more proactive about dating now. So I can see where it would get expensive.
Also, Sweet Like Sugar, I always forget that I think I'm looking at dating from a different viewpoint than a lot of the posters here. I'm much older than you, and back when I was dating, online dating either didn't exist or wasn't really a thing yet. You basically just met people IRL, and if you found someone you really liked, you asked them out. With online dating, I assume, you have more of a "selection" of people to choose from. It just sounds to me like people are more proactive about dating now. So I can see where it would get expensive.
Yes, if you're going on lots of dates it could be expensive, but I doubt that's the case for everyone. I've always done online dating and rarely have I met up with two different guys in one week. I may meet one guy every couple of months where there's a mutual interest to meet offline and we follow through with it. I do usually take my mom out to dinner at least twice a month or more and I always pay, so I can understand a little bit from a guy's perspective how it feels to always be the one to pay. But I also have a job and it doesn't hurt me to do it (and I'd just stop taking her out to dinner if it did). So for the guys, if taking a woman to dinner is going to prevent you from paying your bills, then don't do it. But otherwise, is it really that big of a deal? Of course men aren't required to pay and they can find women who will be willing to pay half. It just might make things more difficult though.
I guess this one girl really liked me then. I met her at a hockey game then we went out for drinks at a few bars and we ended up hooking up. When we went out after, I took her to the movies, then we went for a walk, then to a sports bar. She was adamant about picking up the $30 tab at the sports bar even though I had intended to pay.
Yes, if you're going on lots of dates it could be expensive, but I doubt that's the case for everyone. I've always done online dating and rarely have I met up with two different guys in one week. I may meet one guy every couple of months where there's a mutual interest to meet offline and we follow through with it. I do usually take my mom out to dinner at least twice a month or more and I always pay, so I can understand a little bit from a guy's perspective how it feels to always be the one to pay. But I also have a job and it doesn't hurt me to do it (and I'd just stop taking her out to dinner if it did). So for the guys, if taking a woman to dinner is going to prevent you from paying your bills, then don't do it. But otherwise, is it really that big of a deal? Of course men aren't required to pay and they can find women who will be willing to pay half. It just might make things more difficult though.
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Originally Posted by Mighty_Pelican
I guess this one girl really liked me then. I met her at a hockey game then we went out for drinks at a few bars and we ended up hooking up. When we went out after, I took her to the movies, then we went for a walk, then to a sports bar. She was adamant about picking up the $30 tab at the sports bar even though I had intended to pay.
I don't think there's anything wrong with these situations. I don't have a problem with the woman paying half. It's just that the woman offering to pay/split the bill is a completely different scenario than asking someone to pay their own way so you will ask them out.
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