"Oh, sorry, I thought you were flirting with me." Bleh.

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by NWGirl74

That's what I used to think too, until it turned out it never was interest in something more.

This is interesting.

I have had a smattering of "just friends" situations with men but that's over the course of nearly 50 years. The overwhelming majority of the time, if a guy asked me for coffee, he was asking for a date and it soon became obvious.

I do recall a couple of really good male "buddies" who were nothing more. One was a work buddy - we went out to lunch all the time, joked around and so on - but now we're going back, hmmm. I think 25 years? Or maybe 22-23 years? Somewhere around there.

For me this is just not a very common/frequent thing. Well, besides the obvious "just friends" male associations like in-laws. Then again, my BIL never asks me out for coffee! LOL! Honestly I'd think it was a little odd if he did. Just not the relationship we have although at get-togethers we're all very friendly and have a good time.

[NWGirl74]

Originally Posted by JerZ

For me this is just not a very common/frequent thing.

For most it probably isn't. One thing I've learned on this board (from the sane posters ) is that my experiences with dating and relationships are pretty much opposite of what is considered normal.

If a guy asks me for my number, starts texting/calling, asks to get together some time, dollars to donuts, it's strictly platonic. Even when he says things like he can't wait to see me, etc. I get there and Boom! "So, I need some advice on this girl I really like..." There have only been a couple of awkward moments of "Oh, you thought this was a date? Why on earth would you think I wanted to date you?!", thankfully. Gee, I don't know, maybe it was all the teasing, flirty texts filled with innuendo. Because I also have that with all my male friends.

[49ersfan27]

Even when you try to be polite people will stay you're doing it wrong. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.