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I think I'm officially over it now and have no intention of messaging back. Actually went to grab a drink with a few colleagues and met an interesting guy so seeing how things go with him. I think after two months of things being up in the air, I have realised I simply deserve better.
I think I'm officially over it now and have no intention of messaging back. Actually went to grab a drink with a few colleagues and met an interesting guy so seeing how things go with him. I think after two months of things being up in the air, I have realised I simply deserve better.
Thanks so much for the support everyone! We had our third date last night and it was absolutely amazing!
Of course when all is well, I'd get a message from the ex. Let me clarify the last message I sent was a couple of weeks ago, roughly stating "this is not functional, we either work through it or I can no longer be emotionally attached." I didn't get a response then and started living my life to the fullest. Last night I got a response stating, "That's more than fair. I don't expect any emotional attachment from you."
I can either ignore or completely end it and wish goodbye. Doesn't really matter though, it's completely clear he's an idiot.
Thanks so much for the support everyone! We had our third date last night and it was absolutely amazing!
Of course when all is well, I'd get a message from the ex. Let me clarify the last message I sent was a couple of weeks ago, roughly stating "this is not functional, we either work through it or I can no longer be emotionally attached." I didn't get a response then and started living my life to the fullest. Last night I got a response stating, "That's more than fair. I don't expect any emotional attachment from you."
I can either ignore or completely end it and wish goodbye. Doesn't really matter though, it's completely clear he's an idiot.
Thanks so much for the support everyone! We had our third date last night and it was absolutely amazing!
Of course when all is well, I'd get a message from the ex. Let me clarify the last message I sent was a couple of weeks ago, roughly stating "this is not functional, we either work through it or I can no longer be emotionally attached." I didn't get a response then and started living my life to the fullest. Last night I got a response stating, "That's more than fair. I don't expect any emotional attachment from you."
I can either ignore or completely end it and wish goodbye. Doesn't really matter though, it's completely clear he's an idiot.
Ignore it. The fact he waited and sent such an impersonal response shows he is not really interested. Sound like he really doesn't care at all.
Resume: Boyfriend (30, very successful) and I (23, well educated with a good a job) have been dating for five months now. The relationship started off very intensely and we got serious from the start. He has been an amazing partner and until recently I could not wish for more. Constant communication, romantic dates, meeting each other's families, wedding parties etc.
The way things escalated: He has a highly demanding job in a leading investment bank, therefore I was warned at the start that work might take over at some point. I accepted it considering my own busy lifestyle and we went on with our lives. The last three weeks have been awfully strenuous for us as he's been working 100+ hours with no weekends. Needless to say, seeing each other has been impossible and trying to be understanding got harder.
Issue: I couldn't handle the lack of usual amounts of communication any longer and upon having a very hard time with my family, I needed him and his support. He seemed somewhat reserved and although wanting to understand the situation, he did not seem overly worried about my feelings. Because I was emotional and an absolute wreck at that time, I sent a message later that evening saying that I understand how demanding work is but that things are different, perhaps he's not happy with me and maybe we are not right for each other. His response was dry, stating that "I am busy with work and don't really have any spare time. So things aren't the same. Maybe we'd be better off taking a break for a while."
I knew he was expecting my response for good couple of hours (could see him typing but not sending the messages) and I contemplated saying either "Take as long as you need, I am done " or "Let's discuss in person and see if it's worth it in the long shot" but instead decided to break the pattern of strongly demanding and emotionally charged conversations that I introduced. Therefore, I joked saying "Maybe. After the break do we go on a date or straight to bed?" (Inside joke), his response was obvious and I could see he was relieved. We sent a few more light-hearted messages.
I don't know what to do here - I have feelings for him, yet his attitude baffled me. I expected more because he was constantly giving more before. However, I was fully aware what work could be like for him and people with his profession. I also knew work would come first more often than not. Yet, he either was not man enough to end it while already doing so in his head or truly couldn't handle stress at work, no time to sleep and my demands, ultimately resulting in suggesting space. Do I go on with my life and see how it pans out or should I give it a month and then completely disregard him?
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He does not sound like he wants a relationship with you. Even if he did, why would you put yourself through his never being with you? Sounds like torture. My advice, he should stay single until he can commit time to building a meaningful relationship. Can't have a relationship by yourself.
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