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A few weeks ago I went to a major conference in which my company participated. I met lots of people from different companies. One of them was a beautiful woman and we started chatting and basically stayed together throughout the day.
When we found out our respective offices are right next to each other, she said we had to arrange a lunch sometime, together with a guy from her company with whom I got acquainted as well. I said sure, why not.
When our lunch came up, she showed up without her colleague because he had to go somewhere else. I said it was no problem at all and we had a nice lunch. Still, I thought the conversation was going to be work-related but she kept trying to get more personal but in a discreet manner.
We started chatting on Facebook as well but I only talked about work. She invited me for coffee but I was busy on that particular night and had to refuse.
Since then we haven't been in contact anymore. I spoke about this with a friend of mine and he said "are you really that naive? Can't you see she was trying to get a date with you?".
I mean I never had a girlfriend so I don't know how these things work. To me she was just being nice, nothing else. I saw no reason not to have lunch with her since our workplaces are next to each other.
No wonder so many guys on this forum seem to have a hard time with dating and whatnot, more timid than a field mouse.
You don't need a PhD in love to know that if a lady asks you out for coffee in addition to previously asking you out to lunch (and sharing FB chats), there's some interest there.
The only way to find out is to go for coffee and then go from there, and later asking her out to dinner.
Maybe she's just bored, but the bottom line is you'll only find out her true feelings and intentions by spending more time with her and seeing the chemistry, not asking the opinions of strangers on a forum.
How old are you, and what do you believe the reason is that you have never dated a woman? That will reflect on my answer to your question.
I'm 35. Not sure why, it just never happened for some reason. Well, my job has always been the main focus of my life. I pour most of my energy into it so at the end of the day I don't have much left to dedicate myself fully to another person.
I don't think he was attracted to her. Any normal guy would have taken advantage of those one-on-one meetings to make his move--IF he wanted to.
This guy doesn't want it.
She's very attractive. But I won't assume anything about anyone I met in a professional setting other than the person is being nice. At least that's how it works in my mind.
I'm also friendly and courteous with a lot of people and it doesn't mean there's second intentions.
You are a 35 year old kissless virgin. Got it. No worries, we see a lot of that here.
My assessment is that you are either:
a) not interested in women, or
b) suffer from an untreated emotional or cognitive issue (OCD, anxiety, autism spectrum, etc).
So really, whether or not she is interested in you doesn't matter, since you have no intention of doing anything about it. Do you see that? Yes?
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