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I think we can do two options. I think we can shift the wedding event. If we loose our deposit I be willing to pay for it or pay the MIL back the $3,000. I think the DJ and everything else can easily change the date.
That's a good idea. If you negotiate well, you might not lose the deposit.
I would just tell the guests that you two are too tied up in work/school to prepare for a wedding.
In the meantime, work out your issues. Maybe you should be a bit more communicative with her in general.
Then the honeymoon agreeable to 10 days but not less. Won't agree on the budget. Let her come up with the additional money you need for the longer trip. You are not a cash cow. I really hope she is generally reasonable with money? So far she sounds like a spoiled brat to me
I talked about the family and holidays, but that kind of was swept under the rug. is that really such a huge issue?
Then the agree to disagree didn't feel resolved. The new issue with arguments where we don't appear to agree on how to handle an argument.
Still appears to be tension and conversations are forced. keep working on it
The money for the honeymoon will come from the wedding. For me renting a place for a week in SC down in the Islands there be inexpensive and romantic. When we are done with school can go on our 2 year anniversary trip maybe longer to the Caribbeans like 2 week's ay Sandals. Then a 5 or in 10 years a trip to Europe.
I like to balance holidays out as best I can. I think it's more of a control thing.
Just trying to talk like I said is tough. Just say hi, how's your day going, love you.
Yes but im part of your life too. And i should be a big part of it. Not an after thought.
Im not a chore or something on a to do list
I should be a priority because we are in a relationship. Im not just a friend you see occasionally.
And thats how i feel most if the time. That when you get done with everything else that is more important than this relationship ill hear from you. Its not fair.
A complete after thought i am.
Im not important at all.
I dont feel like a girlfriend or soon to be wife. Most of the time i feel like a back burner.
It is a legitimate concern. You might not be all that upset if when the two of you eventually get around to baby making that it can't happen, but it appears that she would be. I'm not blaming you. If a family was important she shouldn't now be over 30 with no clear path towards parenthood. But you do realize that you have put yourself in-between her and her motherhood imperative right? At least she is being upfront with you.
The money for the honeymoon will come from the wedding. For me renting a place for a week in SC down in the Islands there be inexpensive and romantic. When we are done with school can go on our 2 year anniversary trip maybe longer to the Caribbeans like 2 week's ay Sandals. Then a 5 or in 10 years a trip to Europe.
I like to balance holidays out as best I can. I think it's more of a control thing.
Just trying to talk like I said is tough. Just say hi, how's your day going, love you.
You are quite the optimist, just saying. 10 years?
It is a legitimate concern. You might not be all that upset if when the two of you eventually get around to baby making that it can't happen, but it appears that she would be. I'm not blaming you. If a family was important she shouldn't now be over 30 with no clear path towards parenthood. But you do realize that you have put yourself in-between her and her motherhood imperative right? At least she is being upfront with you.
Can always adopt, but no it won't be the same for her. I just can't focus on anything but this. I feel like we've grown farther apart and when we're together were merely friends. We differ on so many ideas.
2. Many church employees, particularly those who work with families, do have counseling credentials. My master's in counseling psych is from a Catholic university and many degree candidates are employed by churches. It is very helpful for people who seek careers in spiritual mentoring to have a background and certification in counseling and therapy.
OP is not saying that the deacon who is counseling them is as qualified as you. Maybe yes, maybe no.
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