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If you can get out of this for $5K at the present, realize that this is the cheapest it will ever be.
Are you really OK with this gal? Do you even want to be a father? She seems to have an unrealistic approach to family finances or personal finance, to say the least. Wants what she wants, and wants it NOW, dammit!
She's way too stressed out and needs to get a grip. The two of you should agree to split the non refundable deposit and count yourself lucky. Much better to do that now than a divorce and child support later.
The money for the honeymoon will come from the wedding. For me renting a place for a week in SC down in the Islands there be inexpensive and romantic. When we are done with school can go on our 2 year anniversary trip maybe longer to the Caribbeans like 2 week's ay Sandals. Then a 5 or in 10 years a trip to Europe.
I like to balance holidays out as best I can. I think it's more of a control thing.
Just trying to talk like I said is tough. Just say hi, how's your day going, love you.
Wow, you plan ahead AND you are optimistic.
As a mentioned in a previous post my hubby and I spent our honeymoon in a nearby town (one weekend).
My husband was an trial attorney and I was working full time as a special education teacher.
While we traveled to visit our parents & other relatives in the US it wasn't until we had been married for 22 years that we could afford to take a two week vacation (to Hawaii).
We have been married for 39 years and have never taken a vacation to Europe (or the Caribbean).
Every couple is different. And, couples has different priorities than other couples.
If you can get out of this for $5K at the present, realize that this is the cheapest it will ever be.
Are you really OK with this gal? Do you even want to be a father? She seems to have an unrealistic approach to family finances or personal finance, to say the least. Wants what she wants, and wants it NOW, dammit!
I would have been rid of her years ago!
I really love her. There is no one in this world I want to be with. It's just she changed when the wedding came closer and I changed by shutting down. I felt she loss perspective and I wrapped myself up in a state of denial.
I really love her. There is no one in this world I want to be with. It's just she changed when the wedding came closer and I changed by shutting down. I felt she loss perspective and I wrapped myself up in a state of denial.
Sounds like the pressure of the impending deadline of marriage made you subconsciously realize what was actually happening.
You can love her without marrying her. No one says you can or have to stop loving her.
Yeah, for my honeymoon we stayed at a friends cabin for a week for free. Our only cost was a hotel night a few nights, gas and food money. However, we didn't really venture out much if you know what I mean. I mean seriously why does it really matter where you are if you are really into each other.
These friends and family that conceived over 34 years old, how long ago was that? Has anyone recently done it that you know of? Be honest. When was the last time you knew of someone in the ~35 y.o. age group conceiving a child without IVF?
*raises hand*
I was 37 when my son, now nine months old, was conceived. No IVF. No difficulty. This was in 2015.
My husband and I have been married almost 4 years now. Still haven't been on our honeymoon...not because of money at all but life keeps throwing obstacles like heart surgery, cancer, and other family needs.
Neither of us are really crying about not getting to go...
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