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Makes me wonder what went wrong that made guys late bloomers in developing those assets and attributes, something must of went wrong in their formative years
There's also some guys like me, that were in a long relationship and then when it ended, they just become totally clueless and have to start from scratch. I was in this position just a few years ago, my best friend is 33 and in this position now. I feel so bad for him, because he has a lot to offer. He's been in two very long relationships (each girl had movie star looks) and now he's really lost, since the last one ended almost 3 years ago.
You really gotta put yourself out there to break it.
There's also some guys like me, that were in a long relationship and then when it ended, they just become totally clueless and have to start from scratch. I was in this position just a few years ago, my best friend is 33 and in this position now. I feel so bad for him, because he has a lot to offer. He's been in two very long relationships (each girl had movie star looks) and now he's really lost, since the last one ended almost 3 years ago.
You really gotta put yourself out there to break it.
Well I'm referring to guys in their mid to late 20s and older who have never had a girlfriend before, just never knew how to make it happen with women
Well I'm referring to guys in their mid to late 20s and older who have never had a girlfriend before, just never knew how to make it happen with women
I'm in my mid 20's, and never had a girlfriend before (though have been on dates).
In my experience, I feel a lot of it comes down to circumstance and luck (essentially being at the right place at the right time). Even if you dress well, have a job/making money, have good hygiene, social skills, etc.
Also, some people are just not naturally good (or are clueless) at getting into relationships, while others have no problem. GravityMan is correct, but it just doesn't come that easy or naturally for some people. It's almost like with everything else in life.
Not to mention, some people may not be interesting in dating or being in a relationship at a certain time period. I wasn't until about 2-3 years ago.
Last edited by NewYorker11356; 09-24-2016 at 06:38 PM..
Not true. Some guys can interact with women easily and still strike out. I'm that guy.
The problem with that is yes ALOT of men can interact with women but don't know HOW to interact with women
You can interact and speak to them all day long mate but if you're not saying the right things and above all in the right way then you're wasting your time mate
First of all, a girlfriend is not something you "get". It's a person you meet. One that has common interests wih you, one whose company you genuinely enjoy.
Chaging your mindset to that goal, of meeting someone that is really fun to hang out with, that you genuinely like, instead of "getting a girlfriend" like you are catching a frickin fish or something is a good first start.
Striking up a conversation can be fairly easy. In the library, that girl that you see all the time, " Excuse me, but I think I forgot my pencil, do you happen to have a spare?" See where it goes from there. She may be a snotty girl that you would want nothing to do with anyway.
Or, she may say either " yes" or " no" and then you can introduce yourself with a smile. Who knows, kid. She may have noticed you, too. There are socially awkward girls out there too. Especially geeky ones whose company you'd likely enjoy the most. I was one of those girls up until I was about fifteen.
If you use some cheesy pickup line, you are going to get a reputation that you don't want. I know girls pretty well. Especially mean ones.
The problem with that is yes ALOT of men can interact with women but don't know HOW to interact with women
You can interact and speak to them all day long mate but if you're not saying the right things and above all in the right way then you're wasting your time mate
( not you but in general )
Before all my drama (won't get into it because you already know LC) happened I can talk to women easily. But it was difficult to find one who was single since most women already have someone. Finding women who weren't taken: that was my issue.
If you get maced by a girl for approaching her, you've either done something very threatening or creepy, so bad that you should probably be smart enough to realize what you did.
Or you were unfortunate and were extremely unlucky. That's assuming it happened to you once. If it's happening more than once, it's obviously more than bad luck and it's probably more than bad luck if it even happens to you once.
I've approached women and the worst thing that's happened is I've been completely ignored or they were snotty and rude. And even the ones that were snotty and rude were very few and far between. Even the girls that didn't like me, were at least polite initially.
I've said that because sometimes you encounter stuck up b-- attitudes that threatens what I wrote even if you just say "Hello" to them.
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