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Besides that, it is best to be friends first, so work on your social skills.
People like people who make them feel good about themselves. They don't want someone who is smart and talented and attractive and good at everything as a prize. They want someone who makes them happy. The way to make someone happy is to support them and have common interests and make them laugh and be fun.
Keeping a girlfriend is about if both parties wish to continue the relationship. Again you have to be a winner, not a loser.
At that age people do move in and out of relationships quickly. Sometimes people meet in high school and stay together for years. It is a time to make lifetime friends of both genders.
You seem to have a fantasized view of how real relationships are. They are not something you get like a trophy or some kind of award. They happen naturally. You're placing to much importance on having a relationship in order to validate your existence/yourself as a person. There is a lot more to having a relationship than just having a girl on your arm. More than likely women can sense this. I think you need to spend more time alone, let life enlighten you a bit. Then try the relationship thing again.
You seem to have a fantasized view of how real relationships are. They are not something you get like a trophy or some kind of award. They happen naturally. You're placing to much importance on having a relationship in order to validate your existence/yourself as a person. There is a lot more to having a relationship than just having a girl on your arm. More than likely women can sense this. I think you need to spend more time alone, let life enlighten you a bit. Then try the relationship thing again.
Haha! He's only 16. He's a computer nerdish guy and only has a few guy friends. He's already spending too much time alone. That's probably part of the reason he has this fantasized view of relationships.
What he needs to do is to get out and do more stuff with more people and more girls.
Well, most guys will have had at least one relationship by their mid-20s...and many of those guys did not need to try all that hard...so it's reasonable to believe that it is not difficult. It largely boils down to attitude and confidence, along with a sense of humor and some things about you or your life that others find interesting.
Most guys that "struggle":
- don't try hard enough (or more likely, don't try at all)
- try too hard, overthink things and/or get too invested too soon. Thus shooting themselves in the foot. The "corny lines" that other posters mentioned is a good example of this.
- are too boring. "Boring" is subjective to an extent...but I think the overwhelming majority of women (including girls in high school) will be bored by a guy that's mundane in his communication, lacks drive and seems to have no life.
The OP's "lime to my corona" is just lame as hell, even for a guy his age...with lines like that, many girls would probably just think "WTF, what a weirdo" or something...and some girls (and guys too) would probably even snicker at him behind his back.
OP - just lighten up, have fun, live & enjoy life, have some basic social awareness, have a passion or two, have no expectations, put yourself out there and interact with your peers (both guys and girls). Go to a party every once in awhile. Get outside your own head. This is especially true for guys your age...you're just getting started and WILL make mistakes and have a lot to learn about yourself and others. Your humor is part of your core personality and it should come naturally (and it'll resonate with the right girls). The dating opportunities will naturally occur from time to time.
You seem to have a fantasized view of how real relationships are. They are not something you get like a trophy or some kind of award. They happen naturally. You're placing to much importance on having a relationship in order to validate your existence/yourself as a person. There is a lot more to having a relationship than just having a girl on your arm. More than likely women can sense this. I think you need to spend more time alone, let life enlighten you a bit. Then try the relationship thing again.
My life is enlighten thou it would be more thou with a beautiful girl.
Again im new to this, so my social skills are kind of mediocre.
But I can try to strive a convo with a girl.
But if I strike a convo, when will it be the best time to ask her to be my girlfriend?
I myself would kinda ease i to the "lime to my corona" talk.
But if you keep your eyes open, and not take it too seriously, then getting a girlfriend is not all that difficult.
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So girls don't like pick up lines? I thou they did
Are there more girls that appreciate compliments like that or most of them don't appreciate it?
Last edited by PJSaturn; 09-14-2016 at 10:35 AM..
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