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So a very small imbalance that one would not notice with the I when looking at a community or population. I.e. a non factor.
No one would look at a community of roughly 200k (a small city) and go, wow, there are so many more men when there are 100k women and 105k men. No one would notice it, and it would be a non issue in dating.
It leaves 5,000 men surplus. That's one community. Nationwide that's a big number.
But it's part of the wider numbers game and why women have more options.
That's ridiculous.
You can't do better than that TINY percentage of men?
A percentage of them will have no job. A percentage will be abusive. A percentage will be incapacitated due to illness. A percentage will be addicted to something. And so on.
These are excuses. Just excuses. There are numbers games, so to speak, everywhere. Everyone has the chips stacked against him or her in some way or other. Nobody has that perfect situation. And dating is hard for a huge, huge percentage of the population, both male and female. You are just making excuses, given the very small discrepancy you're relying on here.
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Yeah, and offset that with the huge number of men in prison, or off in the military, and its is absolutely complete a non issue. it isn't noticeable at all.
Sure, in some small communities under specific circumstances it might be noticeable, but even going to a smallish college of 3000 people when it is a 60/40 gender ratio it isn't really noticeable over day to day living.
And F the numbers game excuse. It is not a numbers game. People aren't looking for numbers. They're looking for one, or a few, individuals... racking up more and more numbers isn't going to help you find that person except for dumb luck. It is about targeting your search technique to find that one person.
Yeah, and offset that with the huge number of men in prison, or off in the military, and its is absolutely complete a non issue. it isn't noticeable at all.
Men in prison are often married or have girlfriends. Same with the military.
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That's ridiculous.
You can't do better than that TINY percentage of men?
A percentage of them will have no job. A percentage will be abusive. A percentage will be incapacitated due to illness. A percentage will be addicted to something. And so on.
These are excuses. Just excuses. There are numbers games, so to speak, everywhere. Everyone has the chips stacked against him or her in some way or other. Nobody has that perfect situation. And dating is hard for a huge, huge percentage of the population, both male and female. You are just making excuses, given the very small discrepancy you're relying on here.
It's about averages. The average woman will have more options than the average man because there's less of them and more men.
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Men in prison are often married or have girlfriends. Same with the military.
They're not in the dating pool. If they're overseas, or in prison, they're not out at the club looking to meet people, so they don't effect the ratios in the dating community.
But this is silly, these microscopic differences in numbers is completely irrelevant.
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It's about averages. The average woman will have more options than the average man because there's less of them and more men.
Dating is not about averages, be it mean, median or mode. It is about one person and one other person.
If you think that few percent (at best) difference makes a real difference, you're dating wrong.
You felt like committing a violent act against a stranger because how he looked enraged you? You know nothing about him and what he may be dealing with in his private life. You just stereotyped him based on absolutely nothing.
Do you have access to weapons?
He just looked like a cocky and Macho arrogant guy, felt like doing it because I hate how life and Society expect us guys to be the strong confident assertive ones, hate the rules of masculinity
Ya when I was at a bar the other night, I couldn't help but feel like punching this guys lights out, he had a cute blonde girlfriend and he looked kinda cocky macho, reason why I feel like doing that is to release my anger, rage, stress, on how much I hate how us guys are supposed to be the confident ones, be risk-takers, have balls, and my resentment on how us guys are supposed to embrace those qualities, like us guys get criticized when we resent doing that
Mog, chatting someone up isn't that big a risk. If you keep in mind that everyone's looking for a type, and you're just not going to be everyone's type, it's not a big deal. Let it roll off your back. The number of people we could resonate with is very small. You shouldn't have the expectation that every woman, or even half the women, or 1/4 of the women you strike up a casual chat with, will respond to you. If you have that expectation, or if you expect to land some babe, like the next guy over from you at a bar, you're setting yourself up for disappointment, anger, rage. You're doing it to yourself, see? Change your expectations, and life will look differently to you.
Mog, chatting someone up isn't that big a risk. If you keep in mind that everyone's looking for a type, and you're just not going to be everyone's type, it's not a big deal. Let it roll off your back. The number of people we could resonate with is very small. You shouldn't have the expectation that every woman, or even half the women, or 1/4 of the women you strike up a casual chat with, will respond to you. If you have that expectation, or if you expect to land some babe, like the next guy over from you at a bar, you're setting yourself up for disappointment, anger, rage. You're doing it to yourself, see? Change your expectations, and life will look differently to you.
the problem is when you don't seem to be ANYONE'S type.
obviously not everyone will be your type... and thats normal and fine...but then you'd think at some point that you'd come across someone that is.
for a lot of people including myself...mutual attraction is just very very difficult to come by.
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