Was I friend zoned and was my response appropriate? (woman, kissing, sex)
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So this girl that I have been seeing the last couple of months I think "friend zoned" me. And I do not know if my approach was the correct approach. She was so wishy washy when she said it.
Background: Her and I have been on about 5-6 dates. And the most we have done is kissed each other. This past weekend, I was hoping to escalate it to more than kissing and more intimate, which in the end landed me getting friend zoned. Her and I went to a college campus for Halloween and I got us a hotel room. When we got back, she said she doesn't want to take it any farther right now because she has trouble trusting people and just got out of a two year relationship like 4-5months ago. She said she still wouldn't mind kissing if I wanted to and still wants to hangout with me but as friends until more trust builds. I just said "okay" and went to sleep.
The next day she texted me asking about homework in a class and I answered. I then sent another text basically saying "I am not interested in being just friends, I have out other girls on the back burner for her, and I can not continue hanging out with her outside of class and if she changes her mind, depending where I am at to get a hold of me." (This is the Coach Corey Wayne Approach) She responded saying "So you don't want to hangout with me as a person?" And I said "Not unless it is something more." And the convo ended in her saying "If that's what you want." The only problem is, I see her twice a week in class and one of the days I am her lab partner.
This all went down yesterday and today I saw her in class and she sat next to me like normal and was engaging conversation in me and kept trying to force convo. (Almost acting like nothing has changed but she was talking a lot more than normal)
So basically, do you think I did the right thing when she said she wants to be friends? She said she still wants to hangout with me and kiss "if I (as in me) want to" so does that mean I am still friend zoned? I clearly like her, just don't know if what I did was the right thing to this situation. What do you all think?
Thanks
Ps: I am usually pretty good at reading a woman's attraction level. She would flirt, hit me up to do something occasionally, say like she knew she had a good feeling for a reason when she met me, etc.
If your goal was to demonstrate that you are a petulant boy by basically throwing a tantrum when she expressed her desire to take things slow, then yes. You absolutely gave the correct response!
If you're so good at "reading a woman's attraction level," then why on earth did you shut her down? I'm sorry she didn't jump into bed with you, but she didn't friendzone you...you did that to yourself.
If your goal was to demonstrate that you are a petulant boy by basically throwing a tantrum when she expressed her desire to take things slow, then yes. You absolutely gave the correct response!
If you're so good at "reading a woman's attraction level," then why on earth did you shut her down? I'm sorry she didn't jump into bed with you, but she didn't friendzone you...you did that to yourself.
--Dim
I didn't want to come off as a tantrum. I figured by saying "just friends" that she was friend zoning me. And once you are there, there's no way out right?
Dude, you're trying to go from Step 1 to Step 5, and it just doesn't work that way.
She told you she got out of a relationship, she's still pining for her ex, believe me! You got a room but did not have sex, am I correct? She wants to take it slow, so respect her wishes and take it slow! I like Coach Corey Wayne, but his is more about getting a woman in bed - fast! And that's fine if you want a FWB situation.
But if you want an actual relationship, you have to slow down, son! Keep trying to entice her aggressively and she's gonna rabbit on you! Just be that guy to help her build trust.
If your goal was to demonstrate that you are a petulant boy by basically throwing a tantrum when she expressed her desire to take things slow, then yes. You absolutely gave the correct response!
If you're so good at "reading a woman's attraction level," then why on earth did you shut her down? I'm sorry she didn't jump into bed with you, but she didn't friendzone you...you did that to yourself.
--Dim
Seriously. Way to slam a door on what might have been a good thing down the road.
And the Coach Corey Wayne Approach??
Really?
I would refuse to even speak to you just because of that...
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