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The man most likely pays the mortgage payment so I don't understand why the whole house has to be based on the wife's taste and colors. Wonder why your man isn't comfortable at home? Keep the pink to a minimum and share in the furnishing of the home. Most men don't need a whole room to be comfortable. How about letting your man at least pick his favorite chair?
Is there a second part to this question? I don't understand why having a place for either wives' or husbands' hobbies or pastimes is an issue. I have a needlework and beading room and he has a basement workshop and a barn. He likes to tinker with old radio, stereos, and electronics, which evidently requires lots of meters, wires, and associated small and not so small parts. Obviously he's not going to be doing this in the dining room. Though he might if he was a bachelor! When we were dating he was constructing a solar reflector in the living room of his apartment.
As for the women's taste dominating the entire house, what an antiquated notion. We've been married since 1981 and my husband has always had an equal interest and say in these matters (fortunately, we have nearly identical tastes). And we paid for our houses with wages from BOTH of our jobs. It's true that my mother did the decorating in our family home but that was a different generation--they were born around 1920. And having her taste predominate was a blessing since my father had a predilection for garish furnishings.
Yes. I grew up part of the time with older relatives who lived in a duplex, and the tinkering and building took place in the garage. Sewing and other stitchery took place in a little vestibule area by the closet, which was also the bill-paying station, equipped with an abacus. (Very old-world!)
I don't even know how "antiquated" the stereotype is of women decorating the house in a frilly manner incompatible with a man's taste. I think it's more regional than era-related. In my extended family, all couples going back generations have shared the same taste, and homes were decorated in a gender-neutral fashion. Asian-style furniture and decor, for example, work very well for men and women, both. Some people didn't have much money to decorate with, anyway, so homes could be pretty sparse. I suspect that the frilly decorating meme originated in the Mid-west or South. It isn't relevant outside of a certain culture zone, in my observation.
I'm a great fan of smaller houses (not those micro sheds), so there would be no extra room for man caves or hobby rooms or guest rooms etc. I do agree that people should be able to be alone for a while if they want to. I certainly would want to be.
I don't really see the purpose of a man cave because any SO I would cohabitate with would have just as much say in how the house was decorated or what goes where as I would. I often wonder about some houses I see where everything is floral chintz and frilly and the husband just has to deal with it.
Men who are so into sports, fandoms, or whatever that they need a whole room to display whatever it is and be surrounded by it would probably not interest me anyway.
Do you have any issue with a man or specifically a man you are in a relationship with having a "man cave". A room/garage where all his electronics and such are and where he goes when he wants some me time?
Doesn't bother me a bit but Mr. CSD's *Man Cave* is our entire home, amazing isn't it.
What a silly concept and description in the opinion of Mr. & Mrs. CSD
Most couples I know agree on where they want the TV; it's either in the den or in the bedroom. I'm the one with the music equipment, in my "woman cave"--my library/music room. Video games are for kids. I don't know any adult men who play video games. I think the whole "man cave" thing wouldn't even come up as a need for most couples.
I would welcome a weight bench and workout room incl. spin bike, deer heads are cool, fishing gear, etc. I don't see why that would require a cave, nor why it would be exclusive to men. Women have weight benches and stationary bikes and weights, too, and enjoy fishing and shooting or archery. Sports equipment is usually kept in the garage, or in a sports equipment closet (with the tennis racquets, etc.), or wherever there's spare storage space.
I had music equipment and instruments, and archery equipment, as a teen, and didn't require a cave for it, lol.
You don't know any men who play video games? Kidding?
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He has his "hobby room" where he works on his models. '
Honestly though, I think I'd have an issue if he felt he needed a place where he could retreat and have just "his stuff", so I'm glad I'm with someone who doesn't feel the need to have a separate "man space".
Geez, I wish my husband would keep his gear and kitsch/mementos in his own room! It tends to creep and insinuate itself into every other room otherwise. Likewise, I prefer to keep my personal stuff in a separate "tomboy cave" also. I keep items fairly well organized, while he just shoves things into closets so that a random assortment always spills out.
Whatever works for a couple is good, and never mind what someone else thinks about it.
Do you have any issue with a man or specifically a man you are in a relationship with having a "man cave". A room/garage where all his electronics and such are and where he goes when he wants some me time?
Yes, I would have an issue if half of our evenings I am alone in the house because he is in his man cave.
I do not have an issue with having the house look manly overall. I don't need plush/pink/girly stuff.
If he wants the motorcycle in the living room, a huge stereo or a fitness room - that is fine with me, I would enjoy that, too.
He has one (it's actually just a walk-in closet, but hey, it's more of a sanctuary than I have). I fully support it. Hell, I even clean it once in a while and flip the calendar for him.
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Video games are for kids. I don't know any adult men who play video games. I think the whole "man cave" thing wouldn't even come up as a need for most couples.
