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I think its wise, especially if this is a blind date / from OLD, to meet them in a public place, for the first date, definitely, and possibly a few subsequent meetings.
When is it ok to be alone with a person you are dating, to ensure safety from a violent or predatory person?
Also bonus question: any advice on how to handle a guy who is pressuring for sex. The obvious answer is not date him, but if one finds themself in a situation with a pushy pressury guy, what is the best course of action?
... to ensure safety from a violent or predatory person?
Relationships are based on trust, which is just a belief that someone will behave in a way you can live with. You can't truly ensure safety, otherwise we would never hear about people who murder their spouses after 20+ years of marriage.
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The obvious answer is not date him...
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... but if one finds themself in a situation with a pushy pressury guy, what is the best course of action?
Before the internet, I wasn't afraid to be alone with men and nothing bad ever happened to me. I wouldn't call that luck, I think it was more the company I was keeping (i.e. the class of people I hung around, the places I spent time at, etc etc). Now with so much socializing happening through the internet and discovering that there are absolute FREAKS on the internet, no, I would never be alone with a stranger I met from online without doing a thorough and formal check on him first and spending some time getting to know him and feel comfortable with him.
Before the internet, I wasn't afraid to be alone with men and nothing bad ever happened to me. I wouldn't call that luck, I think it was more the company I was keeping (i.e. the class of people I hung around, the places I spent time at, etc etc). Now with so much socializing happening through the internet and discovering that there are absolute FREAKS on the internet, .
You could meet these same "freaks" anywhere. It's a myth that people you meet online are more dangerous than people you meet anywhere else.
You could meet these same "freaks" anywhere. It's a myth that people you meet online are more dangerous than people you meet anywhere else.
The difference is, when you met this stranger you frequented the same places and ran into them out and about. It feel more anonymous with internet people. There are fewer or no shared ties.
You could meet these same "freaks" anywhere. It's a myth that people you meet online are more dangerous than people you meet anywhere else.
Oh, really? Before the internet, men weren't going around in droves showing their "D pics" to women whenever they felt like it. They wouldn't do it in real life if we were all in person either, as they would get arrested swiftly.
It's not been a myth in my experience and that is what I go by. I've never met so many freaks, deviants, woman-haters and mishaps in my life, they all came from the internet. I believe it's a place that they congregate and for a reason. Combine that with the distance and anonymity, which makes them feel e-courage and the ability to act out, and it's just the worst place ever to meet quality dates.
I think its wise, especially if this is a blind date / from OLD, to meet them in a public place, for the first date, definitely, and possibly a few subsequent meetings.
When is it ok to be alone with a person you are dating, to ensure safety from a violent or predatory person?
Also bonus question: any advice on how to handle a guy who is pressuring for sex. The obvious answer is not date him, but if one finds themself in a situation with a pushy pressury guy, what is the best course of action?
Did that happen? You don't know how to get up and leave?
Imagine you are on a boat with him in a body of water. Its too far to swim.
Would that not be the same thing as being alone in a room with him?
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