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OP- I know for me, I never wanted to reproduce with someone on the spectrum as the genes and potential for an autistic child would be to great. Maybe other women have similar concerns. Could that be the issue and not so much that you are autistic?
OP- I know for me, I never wanted to reproduce with someone on the spectrum as the genes and potential for an autistic child would be to great. Maybe other women have similar concerns. Could that be the issue and not so much that you are autistic?
After the movie would be a great time to bring it up. Perhaps you could mention that, while it is a good movie, everybody that is autistic isn't the same as the movie character, saying that you are also and explaining how it is different with you.
I do mean in just a general way, not tons of detail.
If she is interested, she may ask some questions. If it scares her away, you would have gotten to that point anyway, I would think
That's smooth!
Yes, being autistic does not equal a death sentence. It only does if you let it.
I have the same affliction, btw. So I will like this thread.
OP- I know for me, I never wanted to reproduce with someone on the spectrum as the genes and potential for an autistic child would be to great. Maybe other women have similar concerns. Could that be the issue and not so much that you are autistic?
They are like two sides of the same coin - they stem from the same root. I tend to agree, dealing with OCD is more challenging than dealing with someone who is on the mild end of the spectrum.
I was told before to never tell a woman this while dating her and that I should just keep it a secret. I can see what people mean as it's very hard for women to want to date a guy if they find that out about them.
However, I find that in my past experiences, a lot of women may have found out the hard way with me and then feel possible cheated after, where as maybe things would have gone better if I had been more upfront about earlier, sometimes I feel. What do you think?
The reality is, just as in a good book, you need to get the ladies attention. So let your positive elements shine, and then as trust is established, communicate your diagnosis.
I wouldn't let it go too far with the dating, but don't start off your conversation with "Hi I'm ____ and Autistic".
The reality is the dating game is a harsh world where people are superficial as hell as they look for their hallmark channel ideal.
It's hard for an average looking healthy guy let alone someone with disabilities.
The beauty is there is an awful lot of good that comes from being single as well if you know how to manage your time and resources.
OP- I know for me, I never wanted to reproduce with someone on the spectrum as the genes and potential for an autistic child would be to great. Maybe other women have similar concerns. Could that be the issue and not so much that you are autistic?
Maybe, I didn't really have the children thing on my mind at this moment. I asked my last long term GF before, how she felt about having children with me since I am autistic and she said she was willing to cause she loved me and wanted to have and love my baby and no one else's. Not sure if most women would feel this way.
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Originally Posted by terraaus
There are autistic dating sites.
Yeah I know there are, but the number of members on autistic site I have found in my city, was no more than two members. So it's really slim pickings on those sites, and would prefer to broaden my options.
I was told before to never tell a woman this while dating her and that I should just keep it a secret. I can see what people mean as it's very hard for women to want to date a guy if they find that out about them.
However, I find that in my past experiences, a lot of women may have found out the hard way with me and then feel possible cheated after, where as maybe things would have gone better if I had been more upfront about earlier, sometimes I feel. What do you think?
Here's how I would do it:
"I believe in full transparency and disclosure. I must disclose my disability. I am autistic."
Done.
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