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I was told before to never tell a woman this while dating her and that I should just keep it a secret. I can see what people mean as it's very hard for women to want to date a guy if they find that out about them.
However, I find that in my past experiences, a lot of women may have found out the hard way with me and then feel possible cheated after, where as maybe things would have gone better if I had been more upfront about earlier, sometimes I feel. What do you think?
Being honest will be the best. Then the woman know what she has to deal with. Autistic people are there who married and living happy. Wish you all the best.
Thanks, but after how many dates do you tell a woman. Aside from women finding out that something is wrong the hard way, I only ever told one so far. But I waited till after I slept with her, cause I thought that sleeping with her first, would make her more likely accept it, since we had already gotten past that stage. She accepted it fine, and that was that, until things didn't work out later on.
However, how long or how many dates should I wait?
Thanks. I actually read that before. I have had four girlfriends in my life over the last few years. But only told the last one, were as the rest found out that something was wrong the hard way, I think. But one thing that site does not go into, is when to tell her. There is actually a girl I really like right now, that I started seeing, but don't want to tell her too early, but at the same time, do not want to wait till it's too late.
We have a date to watch a movie, and she picked Rain Man to watch since it's one of her favs... Now if there is any time that autism is going to come up in a conversation or debate, it's going to be after watching this movie, so I was wondering.... But I only just met her a couple of weeks ago. So maybe I shouldn't...?
After the movie would be a great time to bring it up. Perhaps you could mention that, while it is a good movie, everybody that is autistic isn't the same as the movie character, saying that you are also and explaining how it is different with you.
I do mean in just a general way, not tons of detail.
If she is interested, she may ask some questions. If it scares her away, you would have gotten to that point anyway, I would think
I wouldn't wait until after you've slept with someone. I think that's being deceitful. I would tell someone you're dating very early on and let her decide if it's something she's okay with. If she's not okay with it than she's not the right woman for you anyway.
I don't think there's an easy way to say it so you just have to say it and see how she responds. I'd do it by the second or third date before either one of you gets too attached. Just be honest, it's part of who you are and you don't have to be ashamed of it. We're all different, that's what makes us interesting.
I wouldn't wait until after you've slept with someone. I think that's being deceitful. I would tell someone you're dating very early on and let her decide if it's something she's okay with. If she's not okay with it than she's not the right woman for you anyway.
I don't think there's an easy way to say it so you just have to say it and see how she responds. I'd do it by the second or third date before either one of you gets too attached. Just be honest, it's part of who you are and you don't have to be ashamed of it. We're all different, that's what makes us interesting.
This.
I also agree that the movie would be a very good segue into telling this woman about how the condition affects you.
My suggestion would be to tell her some of the personality issues you have without providing a label. Sometimes hearing that someone has an issue that has been labeled automatically brings out negative reactions. Providing the symptoms specifies what she needs to know. Providing a label allows people's preconceived notions to get the best of them.
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