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my gf turned out to be a stripper and i dont know what to do now.. we've met in russia, then i came back to US and we've been chatting so long and ive invited her to US, she agreed and she was going to move. But once i've saw her in promo video of strip club Zavist, i was shocked, i found out that she is really working there. Also she lied me, damn, i was so stupid. I would never date and marry woman who show her body to other men
my gf turned out to be a stripper and i dont know what to do now.. we've met in russia, then i came back to US and we've been chatting so long and ive invited her to US, she agreed and she was going to move. But once i've saw her in promo video of strip club Zavist, i was shocked, i found out that she is really working there. Also she lied me, damn, i was so stupid. I would never date and marry woman who show her body to other men
Maybe she lied to you because she doesn't feel like she can be totally open with you. Do you think she is correct? Instead of passing judgement immediately, you could extend honesty about your feelings about it to her and decide whether or not this is something you two can move on.
There are things in life you and your future SO will disagree and disapprove. It will not be a long relationship if you dismiss them so easily. She is still the same person before and after you discovered what she does to earn a living.
Maybe she lied to you because she doesn't feel like she can be totally open with you. Do you think she is correct? Instead of passing judgement immediately, you could extend honesty about your feelings about it to her and decide whether or not this is something you two can move on.
There are things in life you and your future SO will disagree and disapprove. It will not be a long relationship if you dismiss them so easily. She is still the same person before and after you discovered what she does to earn a living.
Having a partner that strips may not bother you, but most people don't want to invest long term in a partner that shows off their body to everyone. That is only meant for their partner or spouse, IMO.
Stripping shows me that they're not self-sufficient and lacks respect for themselves.
Having a partner that strips may not bother you, but most people don't want to invest long term in a partner that shows off their body to everyone. That is only meant for their partner or spouse, IMO.
Stripping shows me that they're not self-sufficient and lacks respect for themselves.
I'm not disagreeing with you... my response is irrelevant to ones feelings about strippers . I'm not advocating continuing the relationship nor ending it... The following is the important part of my post:
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Instead of passing judgement immediately, you could extend honesty about your feelings about it to her and decide whether or not this is something you two can move on.
I'm simply saying that the OP should talk it over and move on from there... even if it means ending the relationship one should be mature enough to discuss it over. She is still the same person before and after it was discovered that she stripped for a living.
If you cannot confront and discuss relationship issues.. even serious ones... one has to wonder if sharing your life with another person is a wise choice.
Just understand there is a lot of cross over between the stripper, porn, escort life. Drug abuse is very heavy in that industry.
I don't think a stripper is a good girl. Most have mental health issues.
There are a lot of misconceptions... I'm not saying it doesn't exist... but many "assume" certain aspects of sex work without actually knowing.
It really depends on the locale and clubs the lady works. I've met some really desperate individuals that I truly wish the best and should get out of it. I also know a lot of ladies who are well adjusted doing it full time and part time; retail, car sales, dental hygienist, lots of students...
I will agree.. low entrance criteria and high income potential makes it an ideal opportunity for those that need to feed a drug habit or start one. However, here is a list of other professions with a high incidence of drug abuse... ones that we don't judge near as harshly.
But yeh... as said already.. If the OP is uncomfortable with the idea, simply talk it over with her and explain that it is time to end the relationship. It is simple as that... Who we choose as a potential mate is certainly within our right to be picky.
I am curious as to peoples thoughts on this matter. I ask that we keep this professional and no dirty talk. What am I looking for is, if your SO came to you and said they want to be a stripper, aka adult dancer, what would you do and/or say? Assuming you're in a stable relationship and you have been together for a good amount of time.
Kick her ass.
There aren't too many things I wouldn't support my wife doing. This is one of them.
I'm pretty sure if I tried to be a male stripper.. you'd find me in a back alley with my throat slit and my wife on her way to prison.
What I would say? That is divorce, good bye, have a happy life moneys inside your pants, btw I want all those pantgifts back because I cannot stand the idea of .. just yuck go away before I start to scream.
I make enough that she could strip for me and still make more than at an average strip club.
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