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I can see someone deeming routinely staying up through the night to play video games a childish pursuit.
Similarly, I'd probably also deem someone routinely staying out with friends all night to be grasping at a younger, more single lifestyle, as well, for that matter.
Also, OP, if you think she's unreasonable, and think the odds are high of finding a better choice in SO who will be understanding and supportive of your gaming habit, why not seek one out?
Last edited by TabulaRasa; 03-07-2017 at 09:06 AM..
If the problem is the amount of time and frequency that you play video games then that is what needs to be communicated. The fact that she believes it is an "immature activity" leads to the conclusion that the gaming itself is a problem. I have met people with that attitude. If that is the case I question if changing your playing habits is really going to make a difference.
I see no problem with you staying up to play since you had no work the next day. Not everyone goes to bed at the same times and people do stay up sometimes for various reasons. I am curious have you ever stayed up late to do other things? If so has she ever complained then?
The online multiplayer games like WoW tend to be the more time sucking games that's the ones that seem to cause problems in relationships. This goes back to the 90's even.
Single player games like Skyrim can take hundreds of hours to play through but you can do it in small increments over time.
I would say on weekdays from Monday to Friday I get about 5-6 hrs of game time, Fridays I'm off in the afternoon so I make the most out of it while my gf is at work (bout 4-5 hrs) then on the weekend it can be anywhere between 5 hrs to 10 hrs depending on how things work out.
......... It's probably a few hours a night unless we have something planned.
When you play video games, you are excluding your girlfriend from your life and shutting her out during those hours.
So, your girlfriend spends 8 hours a day at work, plus maybe an hour commute time. She comes home to a boyfriend who is playing video games and excluding her for a few hours a night. Then he does over-night games and won't sleep with her.
I wonder what OP's reaction would be if his girlfriend refused to talk to him or interact with him a few hours every day and refused to sleep with him on the weekends?
I'm thinking he is going to look up from his game console one day and realize that she walked out 2 weeks prior. Probably when his sandwich doesn't appear like magic at his elbow.
I would say on weekdays from Monday to Friday I get about 5-6 hrs of game time, Fridays I'm off in the afternoon so I make the most out of it while my gf is at work (bout 4-5 hrs) then on the weekend it can be anywhere between 5 hrs to 10 hrs depending on how things work out.
It sounds like you play 10-15 hours a week when your girlfriend is around, which is still a lot. It's fine to have your own activities, but it's not just a binary of having something planned OR video games. Sometimes you just want to spend time together without having a specific plan of going to a movie or festival.
The game he's playing is called "Let's troll the good folks of the city-data Relationships forum with random questions like this". No wonder this girlfriend, as imaginary as she is, is getting upset
Closed.
Yac.
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