Benefits of Marriage (dating, wife, boyfriend, women)
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What are the benefits gained by marriage? Surely marriage is not an antiquated idea and people do still want marriage and commitment.
If you were going to convince a partner that marriage is a good idea, what reasons would you give?
I think marriage is beneficial if you plan on having children but aside from that, either you love and value a person enough to legally commit to them or you don't. It shouldn't require any convincing.
I agree with Sweet Like Sugar - it shouldn't need any convincing.
va_bank - Cute line, but, it is a bit trite and I hope you don't believe the first part. That said, I think there often is a difference in the reasons a woman or a man (on a gender basis) would want/need/view marriage.
The OP has a good question however - and I think it goes to what marriage means to any of us (who still believe in it - and I do) and why we may consider it important (especially in a world where increasingly it seems many don't).
And for me (female), beyond being just a measure of the depth of one's 'love' for another person, marriage is the glue for a lot of 'intangibles'. It is an 'emotional security' thing. It is a public acknowledgement of a private commitment. It is a 'two can build it better than one' thing. It is a 'you and me against the world' thing. It is a 'my bff' thing. It is a 'soft place to land' thing. It is a 'we've found the only safe port we need for every storm' thing.
And for me (female), beyond being just a measure of the depth of one's 'love' for another person, marriage is the glue for a lot of 'intangibles'. It is an 'emotional security' thing. It is a public acknowledgement of a private commitment. It is a 'two can build it better than one' thing. It is a 'you and me against the world' thing. It is a 'my bff' thing. It is a 'soft place to land' thing. It is a 'we've found the only safe port we need for every storm' thing.
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For me it's been a disaster. She totally changed from dating to marriage and showed a manipulative / angry side I was shown only in tiny fleeting moments. It's like the old her died on the wedding day. It's like she feels secure because it's much harder for me to leave so she treats me like garbage. You pay far more taxes when you file married vs single which negates any savings elsewhere. If I manage to get out of here before the stress first kills me I would never get married again.
Society tends to take married couples more seriously and treats marriage more respectfully than cohabitants. You see it in every area of life, from the workplace to your social circle. See the thread about the boyfriend who doesn't get an automatic invite for his gf when he is invited to a party. A wife, no doubt, would be included.
For me personally I do not see any benefits and that is why I do not want to get married. I don't want kids. which for me is the only reason I see to get married. for me a LTR works perfectly.
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