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So would you say that it's ok to date a woman of a "lower social class" who saves, budgets, invests, has good credit, may not have the best-paying or white-collar job but she has her own place and has owns her car that no one helps her pay for, has little to no debt, and is attractive and intelligent?
I am not the poster you were replying to but I will offer an answer. I would consider such a woman to be better than someone of a higher social class who is less conscientious with her finances.
Ultimately the best would be a woman with finances like Warren Buffet but that is only a pipe dream. Nonetheless I would choose lower income paired with good financial habits over a higher income with poor financial habits.
Following divorce after being married for 25 years to a passive dependent who never worked, one of my three "requirements" for a future wife, if there was to ever be one, was that she be long-term employed with her own retirement plan. The amount of income was quite secondary.
IME that when two people share the same income level the relationship tends to have far less tension due to money issues. For myself my ex wife used to make far less than me, and it wasn't a problem until she bitched because I spent so much time at work. Unfortunately she wasn't as careful with money as she was when it was her own. I let the spending sprees go, without getting mad, but when she grabbed substantial amounts without asking, after the second time, I had to cut the chord. Money issues are a real detriment to a relationship. Unless both partners have a working agreement about the way they spend money.
Bottom line is that only you can decide if if someone's financial standing is a strike against her. I would be open to anyone who showed responsibility, doesn't matter is she was making 15 an hour or 150k a year, since I've seen both types act irresponsibly. Both can be financially responsible, salary has nothing to do with it really.
IME that when two people share the same income level the relationship tends to have far less tension due to money issues.
except, two people who don't make much probably have a lot of money issues. :/ and I'm sure being with someone who made more would probably sound good.
except, two people who don't make much probably have a lot of money issues. :/ and I'm sure being with someone who made more would probably sound good.
I know people who don't have great paying jobs. One friend and his wife probably make 50k apiece. They are frugal and don't do vacations. They do weekend getaways down the coast or to the mountains. They also bought their house 10 years ago. They are the picture of teamwork, and even with their lower salaries they never talk about financial problems. Their weekends are filled with DIY home improvements and are a great example of a happy couple.
Its not the money itself, it's how the couple manages it. I could have cared less that I made more than my ex, but she was very irresponsible with it. Irresponsible enough to where I had legitimate concerns that she could effect the security I've built. It don't care how good she was at taking care of the D, no one is so good, that they are allowed to erase away years of my hard work. It's about sharing the same philosophies and beliefs, just like religion, substance abuse, violence etc... all must be considered.
I know people who don't have great paying jobs. One friend and his wife probably make 50k apiece. They are frugal and don't do vacations. They do weekend getaways down the coast or to the mountains. They also bought their house 10 years ago. They are the picture of teamwork, and even with their lower salaries they never talk about financial problems. Their weekends are filled with DIY home improvements and are a great example of a happy couple.
Its not the money itself, it's how the couple manages it. I could have cared less that I made more than my ex, but she was very irresponsible with it. Irresponsible enough to where I had legitimate concerns that she could effect the security I've built. It don't care how good she was at taking care of the D, no one is so good, that they are allowed to erase away years of my hard work. It's about sharing the same philosophies and beliefs, just like religion, substance abuse, violence etc... all must be considered.
Do you mean each one makes like 25k?
If both are making 50k, that's around 100K before taxes. That's VERY good, lol.
It has always seemed to me that even if a guy is otherwise a good, even great guy if he doesn't make much, say working minimum wage it is acceptable for a woman to reject him for it. But what if it was the other way? Say a man is 30 has a good career going and making good money, he meets a woman also 30 and she is otherwise a good person but is working at fast food. But he rejects her due to it?
You should date who you enjoy. If they don't make the money you prefer, then start a business together.
Or encourage an alternative job. This goes both ways
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