Is 28/29 too old to date a 21 year old woman? (attracted, friends, partner)
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I was talking about having fun in the context of the relationship, not as an individual.
I've marinated on your response and it's a still a non-sensical answer. So, if someone is 28 and needs the "hope and inspiration" of a 21 yr old to get them moving in life it's still a silly statement full of huge holes in logic and reason.......
It's not terrible. I think my own parents married with an age difference somewhat like that. I think 28/29 and 22. Youngest I've considered dating however at 23-24 is 20-21. Currently pursuing a girl whose 22.
I've marinated on your response and it's a still a non-sensical answer. So, if someone is 28 and needs the "hope and inspiration" of a 21 yr old to get them moving in life it's still a silly statement full of huge holes in logic and reason.......
I suppose it was a roundabout way of saying that you can date a 21-year-old without having to worry that you'll be pressured into settling down, getting married, and having babies. To get that experience of "just dating", having crazy-good times together, and letting your feelings run wild. Like in the song "All Summer Long" by Kid Rock. I never got to experience that kind of relationship, just the more sedate "adult" relationships at later years, which I think affected me pretty badly. Well, my first relationship was at age 18, a short-term one, but it was someone I kind of settled for---I wasn't really into her looks, and we had little in common---so those "love feelings" just couldn't develop.
I did, however, observe relationships among my peers back when I was that age. Other than being overly codependent (like "always bringing your partner along" and "telling each other everything" ), they looked pretty nice to be in. Or at least, it was a price I was willing to pay for having a girlfriend---unlike today. Not to mention, they were free of the usual "settling down" pressure, just taking it one day at a time.
So now, that's the relationship I want (minus the "always bringing your partner along" and "telling each other everything"), as opposed to today's mad rush into marriage and babies. So I might as well experience that kind of relationship before I turn into a dirty old man, where dating 21-year-olds stops being socially acceptable.
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I suppose it was a roundabout way of saying that you can date a 21-year-old without having to worry that you'll be pressured into settling down, getting married, and having babies. To get that experience of "just dating", having crazy-good times together, and letting your feelings run wild. Like in the song "All Summer Long" by Kid Rock. I never got to experience that kind of relationship, just the more sedate "adult" relationships at later years, which I think affected me pretty badly. Well, my first relationship was at age 18, a short-term one, but it was someone I kind of settled for---I wasn't really into her looks, and we had little in common---so those "love feelings" just couldn't develop.
I did, however, observe relationships among my peers back when I was that age. Other than being overly codependent (like "always bringing your partner along" and "telling each other everything" ), they looked pretty nice to be in. Or at least, it was a price I was willing to pay for having a girlfriend---unlike today. Not to mention, they were free of the usual "settling down" pressure, just taking it one day at a time.
So now, that's the relationship I want (minus the "always bringing your partner along" and "telling each other everything"), as opposed to today's mad rush into marriage and babies. So I might as well experience that kind of relationship before I turn into a dirty old man, where dating 21-year-olds stops being socially acceptable.
I would say it starts being socially unacceptable in your mid 30's, but then who cares what people think.
I suppose it was a roundabout way of saying that you can date a 21-year-old without having to worry that you'll be pressured into settling down, getting married, and having babies. To get that experience of "just dating", having crazy-good times together, and letting your feelings run wild. Like in the song "All Summer Long" by Kid Rock. I never got to experience that kind of relationship, just the more sedate "adult" relationships at later years, which I think affected me pretty badly. Well, my first relationship was at age 18, a short-term one, but it was someone I kind of settled for---I wasn't really into her looks, and we had little in common---so those "love feelings" just couldn't develop.
I did, however, observe relationships among my peers back when I was that age. Other than being overly codependent (like "always bringing your partner along" and "telling each other everything" ), they looked pretty nice to be in. Or at least, it was a price I was willing to pay for having a girlfriend---unlike today. Not to mention, they were free of the usual "settling down" pressure, just taking it one day at a time.
So now, that's the relationship I want (minus the "always bringing your partner along" and "telling each other everything"), as opposed to today's mad rush into marriage and babies. So I might as well experience that kind of relationship before I turn into a dirty old man, where dating 21-year-olds stops being socially acceptable.
My spouse is my best friend. I "tell her everything" that's what people do in mutually compatible mature adult relationships. I'm not lecturing you or talking down to you, merely stating what is a HUGE consensus among mature adults.
I don't wanna be in a relationship where I have to hold back, where I can't tell my best friend in the whole world, one who will be there till the end of the earth, I don't wanna hold back from her. My heart and soul and feelings are what I'm talking about here. Yeah, sounds a little fem, but the older I get, the more I'm letting go of typical masculine stereotypes of behavior. Am I a wimp.... no... not at all, just sayin.
Being in a relationship and holding back myself has no appeal to me, we are life partners, she's not just some chick I bone when I've got a case of the horns. She's my other half.........
You're either in, or you're out.... there's no middle ground for me and most people I know......
My spouse is my best friend. I "tell her everything" that's what people do in mutually compatible mature adult relationships. I'm not lecturing you or talking down to you, merely stating what is a HUGE consensus among mature adults.
I don't wanna be in a relationship where I have to hold back, where I can't tell my best friend in the whole world, one who will be there till the end of the earth, I don't wanna hold back from her. My heart and soul and feelings are what I'm talking about here. Yeah, sounds a little fem, but the older I get, the more I'm letting go of typical masculine stereotypes of behavior. Am I a wimp.... no... not at all, just sayin.
Being in a relationship and holding back myself has no appeal to me, we are life partners, she's not just some chick I bone when I've got a case of the horns. She's my other half.........
You're either in, or you're out.... there's no middle ground for me and most people I know......
Well, OK, then... if wanting to keep some of my actions, opinions, thoughts, and feelings private is wrong, I don't want to be right. Because in a relationship, you never know when sharing something can trigger a very angry reaction. Do I want to risk it? Hell no!
Last edited by MillennialUrbanist; 03-26-2017 at 01:07 AM..
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and "telling each other everything" 
