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Good. If it works, then stick with it and be happy; if it doesn't work, then think of it as being more about the two of you as individuals as opposed to the fall-out of age gap problems. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with early to mid-twenties dating late twenties to early thirties. You're at a nice time in life where you can both date up or down when it comes to age and have tons of options, so don't psych yourself out or overthink too much.
This is not applying the rule to them that you applied to yourself. You're assuming their chronological age will match your supposed mindset.
You're also assuming that women who are your chronological age don't also feel mid-20s.
My attraction to younger women is a relatively new thing. It happened as an internal reaction to seeing everybody in my social circle, both immediate and extended, pair up, get married, and/or start having kids, basically overnight, with single men (but not single women) becoming an underclass of sorts. It's not the case in my Meetup groups, where being a single man doesn't carry the same stigma, but I categorize them separately, given the "top-down" nature of Meetup. Because honestly, if you exclude Meetup, I don't know anyone my age nowadays who isn't heavily in the "marry and baby" mode. So I'm sticking to my story.
Believe it or not, I can actually see myself getting married after I'm 55, although having kids is definitely out of the question. But even that would be mainly for mutual safety and/or to help a platonic friend (to call 911 if one of us falls down at home, which can be dangerous at an old age), rather than for "love".
I find that most people don't feel or act their number age. I certainly don't feel my age.
I don't either, but MU's post as written assumes that any girl in her 20s will be a more compatible partner than one his own age because he apparently has forgotten that some of them might also not "feel" 33. He may have a female equivalent out there that he's ruling out based on numerical age.
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Originally Posted by MillennialUrbanist
My attraction to younger women is a relatively new thing. It happened as an internal reaction to seeing everybody in my social circle, both immediate and extended, pair up, get married, and/or start having kids, basically overnight, with single men (but not single women) becoming an underclass of sorts. It's not the case in my Meetup groups, where being a single man doesn't carry the same stigma, but I categorize them separately, given the "top-down" nature of Meetup. Because honestly, if you exclude Meetup, I don't know anyone my age nowadays who isn't heavily in the "marry and baby" mode. So I'm sticking to my story.
Believe it or not, I can actually see myself getting married after I'm 55, although having kids is definitely out of the question. But even that would be mainly for mutual safety and/or to help a platonic friend (to call 911 if one of us falls down at home, which can be dangerous at an old age), rather than for "love".
Ok, but none of that addresses the flaw in logic that I noticed in your post.
Just do yourself a favor and don't make any major pronouncements. Just be the best person you can be, but in the meantime save some of these posts to read 20 years from now so you can laugh at yourself.
I don't either, but MU's post as written assumes that any girl in her 20s will be a more compatible partner than one his own age because he apparently has forgotten that some of them might also not "feel" 33. He may have a female equivalent out there that he's ruling out based on numerical age.
Ok, but none of that addresses the flaw in logic that I noticed in your post.
Just do yourself a favor and don't make any major pronouncements. Just be the best person you can be, but in the meantime save some of these posts to read 20 years from now so you can laugh at yourself.
I'm sure such individuals my age exist. But the observational statistics have been far from encouraging. <shrugs> I still feel like I have a better chance of finding a compatible partner among a slightly younger age group.
These posts will get saved, lol. Even if City-Data won't be around in 20 years, there'll be a web archive of some sorts, like there is today. That, and Google. At least if the entire internet doesn't collapse under its own weight, due to running out of IP addresses and/or failing to switch to IPv6.
Last edited by MillennialUrbanist; 03-28-2017 at 09:52 AM..
No. Certain women might hate on you, and call you immature or something, but ignore them.
It's funny because I thought women supposedly mature faster than guys. So using that logic, wouldn't it make sense for a guy to date a woman younger than him?
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