Finding love after 40? (boyfriend, marry, guy, cheating)

[mishigas73]

Originally Posted by stepka

There's nothing normal about dating at any age. It is such a different experience for every person.

Yup.

[Mikala43]

I was widowed at 40, started dating at 42 and remarried at 47.

Just take everything slow, you have been through a lot and time to regroup is good. Best wishes.

[PhureeKeeper]

Originally Posted by jacktravern

40 is not that young. A lot of people physical peek is in their rear view window at that point. Pot bellies and saggy boobs have set in and its a bad look.

OP, I'm around the same age and single. do you NEED to be in a relationship? Just date sample whats out there and have a good time. Most women I meet that are in relationships have been with these guys forever anyway. Hopefully you are doing well financially. if you are, regardless of looks, you can always find a date. But with 3 kids, I mean, you do have some baggage. the goal for you is to not let it appear the kids are a problem. When i meet a woman with baby sitter issues, or baby daddy problems, I'm gone.

You have got to be kidding me. What an over-generalization.
Then again, I suppose it's true if the only people you know don't take care of themselves.

[cattalk1]

Shouldn't have any problems picking up someone 35+. They make the 'moves' quickly and decide the 'shack up' quickly too... Just put on the smile and stow most of the baggage over it all. Well written online dating profile and smiling male dressed to impress in picture sells it every time...I still like Match.com. Meetup.com can have some nice activity and dating groups in larger cities. Cost is really reasonable...Worth checking out too.

I'm sorry for your suffering...But you will trust again..That is a really unusual move for a female. She was probably a bit flightly or mentally unstable, huh? Or, one of her parents was same. It's not you.

[oh-eve]

Originally Posted by notinpa

So , I'm going to be 40 . My wife of being together 20yrs left me for her new love . Left me , left our 3 kids , left her mom , sister , dad . Yea yea , poor me . But what I'm asking is , how many people have found someone in this situation , to be with . Been trying to focus on the kids right now , not even ready to look , maybe in a year , if ever . But it seems when I take them places , at my age , it's all familes with thier own intact situations .

Been a while since I've been looking . But just seems at 40 everyone is going to be taken . I'm sure I can't be the only guy in this spot . Just looking for experience .

Times have changed since you were last on the market but it is doable. Just different. I am 40 and there are lots of other singles out there.


I wish you all the best!

[Eternal Nightsong]

There's hope. Within the past few years I've had 2 cousins get married.
They both married ladies that had 1 kid apiece. The ladies they married were younger but the men were each past 40
So there's hope I guess.

A co-worker (female) just recently got engaged. She's 46 and her fiance is in his 50's
So there's hope I guess

[Luck-67]

^^^

Yep. It's really just not that big of a deal.

[Brady To Gronk]

20K is nothing. Boston alone is over half a mill and the metro area is 4 mill.

[Hans63]

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All I can say to the OP is, I hope you're not in Los Angeles. That's the most difficult dating scene I've ever encountered (unless you're into the drug culture, or you're a celebrity or know how to posture like one).

[Klassyhk]

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I'd say especially as I've matured my taste has matured as well. At age 40 and above, it's not easy getting the type of relationship that is a good fit. Have to rep you.