Male vs. Female Fantasizing (emotionally, looking, different, relations)
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I fantasize that she won't run away or die laughing when she see's me naked? And before that, I fantasize that somewhere there is someone who actually does want to see me naked.
I made a rule for myself that I'm not allowed to fantasize about anyone I know in real life (except Mr.Mathlete, obvi). It would just be too weird, and I just know it would be written all over my face that I pictured banging said person.
I'm the same way, that would feel weird to me. If I'm going to fantasize abt another man, it's usually a rock star from the 70's or 80's.
I also rarely fantasize abt 'the act' itself, more about leading up to it, etc. I'm sure the answers would be as varied as the women doing the fantasizing. It's different for everyone.
I fantasize if a guy is a good kisser, imagine what he looks naked and then wonder if he will be good in the sac. Lol
Sometimes I will fantasize about more innocent things though like imagining myself dancing with a handsome gentleman, gazing into his eyes with romantic music playing in the background lol.
I fantasize about a man who isn't infantile and doesn't try to apply what he has learned from watching countless hours of porn into what he believes a 'relationship' constitutes. A man who understands his emotions and is capable of expressing them on a regular basis.
A man who is honest, happy, attractive, emotionally stable, and doesn't take himself too seriously. A man with a sense of direction in his life, goals and objectives, and the wherewithal to achieve them.
Clearly, this is destined to remain a fantasy. I may as well hope to find a unicorn in my backyard.
It's not snarky or sad, and it's not about jumping through hoops either as far as I'm concerned. The features I described in my fantasy man are ones I bring to the table, and I didn't 'jump through hoops' to get there. Do you really think the descriptives I used for my fantasy man were extreme? What is wrong with that picture, hmm? I don't think anything I wrote was all that demanding. Or should I instead aspire to find a man who is immature, a porn addict, with no relationship, life, or coping skills?
The fact is, most men I encounter online have little to offer but are holding out for Scarlet Johansen with a bleached anus, waxed and tucked vajayjay, perfect grapefruit knockers, a Kardashian ass with a wasp waist, a subservient nympho who's dripping in anticipation of his sweaty stubby sausage fingers all over her like white on rice. She should be smart, but not smarter than him. She shouldn't speak until spoken to, and when he wants her opinion he will let her know what her opinion will be. She should accept him just as he is with all his character, personality, and physical flaws, but he won't put up with even chipped nail polish. Hence, my 'fantasy' man. You can take it or leave it, I'd rather be alone than with a person I'm not compatible with and who fails to value my attributes and achievements. I'd prefer to be with someone who I can respect and admire and who inspires me to be the best version of me. With or without a waxed vadge.
Your problem is likely where you're looking; online.
POF: 95% trash, both sexes
Tinder: lots of trash / hookup only
Bumble: Juries still out, but it's promising
The other issue is you're looking for a high quality man and finding yourself upset that he has standards, I assume you're being hyperbolic in your subsequent post about his desires. The bottom line a high quality man is going to have high expectations for a LTR.
Same line of thought as tummy tuck or face lift.
For real.
I can't rep you, but gotcha, thank you for the explanation. Good thing I don't live in Hollywood.
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