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Picky is good, but there needs to be balance. If you're super picky about height, weight, physique and race but less picky about compatibility (finances, education, values etc.), you'll either stay single or date an assortment of duds.
Most people are far too willing to compromise on compatibility in order to find someone that provides "spark" which is short-hand for someone that makes their pants tingle.
Picky is good, but there needs to be balance. If you're super picky about height, weight, physique and race but less picky about compatibility (finances, education, values etc.), you'll either stay single or date an assortment of duds.
Most people are far too willing to compromise on compatibility in order to find someone that provides "spark" which is short-hand for someone that makes their pants tingle.
I'm not picky about looks..just like clean cut, not huge (although i've dated overweight men too) and same race as me (white) and taller than me (easy to do-I'm only 5'4"). I'm picky about how I'm treated, if we share the same values and if we share the same relationship goals though. Everyone should be. I could care less about education or money. Ambition doesn't discriminate against education and socioeconomic backgrounds.
Also, LOL at the letting all the T&A hang out! haha! It'll definitely get me attention alright.
I rather be picky and perpetually single, than be with someone I really don't want.
I saw how horrible my parents marriage was. I'd rather die than let my kids listen to us scream at each other all day for 20 years. The irony is how divorced people tell me I'm too picky...
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Originally Posted by RbccL
Yes! Bc you like you, and aren't bored with yourself, have interests and know you'll be ok, either way!
I wish I would have believed that at your age. I spent too much time trying to feel ok by doing what 'everyone else' was doing.
I'm not bored with myself, but it can get really lonely to the point of tears. So I had to develop interests to fill my time. It took me years to get to an ok place though and I still struggle some days.
I saw how horrible my parents marriage was. I'd rather die than let my kids listen to us scream at each other all day for 20 years. The irony is how divorced people tell me I'm too picky...
I'm not bored with myself, but it can get really lonely to the point of tears. So I had to develop interests to fill my time. It took me years to get to an ok place though and I still struggle some days.
It was not a good example to set for us. I promised myself i'd never end up in something like that. so far, I haven't had relationships where we're constantly screaming at each other..until I met this last guy. It only lasted 2 months (ended it a month ago) cause I had enough of THAT! It was so draining. I can't believe my parents did that for 20 years!
I'm not bored with myself, but it can get really lonely to the point of tears. So I had to develop interests to fill my time. It took me years to get to an ok place though and I still struggle some days.
Yeah, I was hoping that you didn't take that personally, It was specifically aimed at Auraliea, who reminds me of my daughter. She doesn't worry about what she's 'supposed' to be doing either. It's my first year as an empty nester so...lots of changes. Sometimes I feel kind of lost too. This thread has helped me look at things differently. Thx
Yeah, I was hoping that you didn't take that personally, It was specifically aimed at Auraliea, who reminds me of my daughter. She doesn't worry about what she's 'supposed' to be doing either. It's my first year as an empty nester so...lots of changes. Sometimes I feel kind of lost too. This thread has helped me look at things differently. Thx
No way. i'm not a snowflake
I bet that's hard. Change is hard no matter what. i'm glad this helped. I was actually seeing someone for a couple months (ended it a month ago) but he turned out to be psycho and emotionally unstable. I saw abuse in the future so I bolted. Its all incredibly draining. Can't wait for this phase of my life to be over.
I rather be picky and perpetually single, than be with someone I really don't want.
That seems to be the mindset Ive heard ad nauseam on here from single people that struggle at dating and or finding their perfect match.
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