Being yourself vs being attractive (movies, marriage, men, young)
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I know those shows are not real, but then again, I see many such people in real life as well these days...
I think it might be an age-related and cultural thing.
Some time ago they said that Portuguese women (and probably not only those) over a certain age think it's important a man has tidily combed hair with part. The fluffy look seems reserved for younger people.
Who are "they"? You are still not getting it, while a certain group may show a preference for whatever ("tidy" hair) that doesn't mean every one of that demographic does.
My husband has tattoos and we are in our 50s, I didn't have a pref either way, on the other hand he wears his hair "high and tight", again, I have no preferences about that.
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As there is a variety of preferences for both genders I guess I wouldn't worry about it.
Some things are more widely liked by the opposite gender and some less, but you are dating an INDIVIDUAL, not the gender at large.
Plenty of women with men that work low end jobs, plenty of men with women who have short hair.
In some countries and cultures that kind of limits you to "low-end women" when a society has certain values and customs. Especially in poorer and developing countries, where everyone wants to move up, so to speak.
Who are "they"? You are still not getting it, while a certain group may show a preference for whatever ("tidy" hair) that doesn't mean every one of that demographic does.
My husband has tattoos and we are in our 50s, I didn't have a pref either way, on the other hand he wears his hair "high and tight", again, I have no preferences about that.
They were talking about a study on Portuguese women's and men's preferences on TV, it was on a talk show about 2 or 3 years ago. I forgot most, but for some reason I remember the thing about combed hair.
In some countries and cultures that kind of limits you to "low-end women" when a society has certain values and customs. Especially in poorer and developing countries, where everyone wants to move up, so to speak.
Off course. Most people end up with people similar to themselves.
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two young single guys I know say they have much better chances of meeting woman when they wear suits or at least a sport coat and a tie. It alludes being successful.
I rarely see this. When I was dating and going out, the men I saw in suits or sport coats were typically with someone or a group of people for special occasions or hanging out during happy hour. Not just lounging around waiting for thirsty women to hit them up or bat their eyes.
And the region's culture plays a factor in this as well. I saw far more well-dressed single professionals in the upscale part of Atlanta where I used to live than anywhere else. San Diego and surrounding suburbs and my area of NorCal? Nope. Far more casual.
My husband hasn't worn a suit in over a decade, and it was for his best friend's wedding. He didn't even wear a suit when we got married. (But he did agree to wear a tux for a cosplay/James Bond/Bruce Wayne photoshoot).
Do you prefer to be yourself just for the sake of it, even if that means you are less attractive or even unattractive to the other sex and thus more likely to stay single? Or do you try to cater to what the other sex considers attractive, violating your own tastes and principles?
Someone could fall for and adore the very traits you might question in yourself, so just embrace who you are and let that be enough.
They'll either love you or they won't, but either way you'll still come out ahead.
I know those shows are not real, but then again, I see many such people in real life as well these days...
I think it might be an age-related and cultural thing.
Some time ago they said that Portuguese women (and probably not only those) over a certain age think it's important a man has tidily combed hair with part. The fluffy look seems reserved for younger people.
You may be noticing certain couples more than others. Probably the more conventional young people don't make an impression on you so much.
I try to go for the most attractive version of myself. It's really all I can do. But for many it takes time and life experience to understand that that is enough:
I always liked how Lauryn Hill put it in this song. She cautions young women AND men not to sacrifice themselves for trends:
This! Be yourself, but try to be the best of yourself.
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