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WE are the ones that deal with our menstrual cycles every freaking month...
With all respect to women who, in my opinion, have much harder things to deal with on a daily basis than men in general, that's not strictly true.
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...so to NOT be prepared...that's weird in my opinion.
Do you have kids? You never ran out of diapers or formula and had to make a late night store run? Ever run out of pet food?
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That's something a woman should be taken care of herself and not asking some man to go buy that stuff...To me....it's a very personal thing and only I want to buy those things.
I mean, it's just a product. A product half the population has need of for many years of their lives. There's no shame in it.
With all respect to women who, in my opinion, have much harder things to deal with on a daily basis than men in general, that's not strictly true.
Do you have kids? You never ran out of diapers or formula and had to make a late night store run? Ever run out of pet food?
I mean, it's just a product. A product half the population has need of for many years of their lives. There's no shame in it.
I think it's just a frame of mind for women who've lived by themselves and not been used to, or expected someone will run out and do something for them. No, there's no shame, people just all view asking for things from others differently. It's not even a feminine hygiene thing for me, it's that only I know exactly what I need and I like to be self-sufficient. I'm never without sparkling water, either, and that's not because there's someone around here to get it for me.
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I think this question is more nuanced than it seems at first glance.
If you NEED something - anything - I think you should expect your significant other to get it for you if possible. (If your car needs a jump, you have food poisoning and need gatorade, you're postpartum and you need nipple cream and stool softeners, for example). If you NEED feminine hygiene products and he is unwilling this once to get them, that's a big problem. I'm sure he's embarrassed - but hey - overcome it. And don't mention it.
If this is a case where she just never buys her own products or treats it like we need milk and eggs, that's a different thing IMHO. Or worse, if she's flexing her muscles and expecting him not to be the least bit uncomfortable . . . that seems unfair.
Likewise, no guy wants to carry his woman's purse. But if she's broken her ankle and needs help getting out of the car and hobbling into the emergency room, expect to carry her purse in after getting her settled without batting an eye. But you see those middle aged guys in the mall, standing by their frumpy wife who has two pairs of capris in her hand and he's carrying her purse. Um, no. Not a good look.
I'd think that it was weird if he was out doing the general grocery shopping and refused to buy tampons, I would think that was weird. OTOH, I had a friend whose girlfriend at the time called him when he and some of us coworkers were at the bar and demanded that he bring her tampons RIGHT NOW. I would not expect anyone to do that. But lately I use Amazon Fresh for my groceries, yes, even for tampons. I highly recommend it. It's a huge problem-solver.
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I've never asked any guy to do that. It's not like I'm bedridden! I guess I'm not the kind of person who tells a guy to go get me things...and then also tell him he got the "wrong kind"?
And I was married for 20 years.
I believe the point of the original post was to see if a guy who was so immature as to refuse a request such as this because he thought it was embarrassing or beneath him would be a dealbreaker. So we can skip over not being asked nicely or whether you personally would never ask such a thing of a man .
As a woman I've been asked to do and done some pretty unpleasant things...including transporting my ex-hubby to and from his colonoscopy appt. and getting to hear him fart the entire time. So if I can do something like that, you're dammed sure I'd expect him to get some feminine supplies along with the other groceries, as needed.
In terms of using getting the wrong kind as an excuse, what can be easier than sending him a pic on his cell of the actual box so he can find it that way? Some men like to "play" helpless to get out of stuff - and that's just as bad as refusing outright, maybe worse since it's sneakier.
I think this question is more nuanced than it seems at first glance.
If you NEED something - anything - I think you should expect your significant other to get it for you if possible. (If your car needs a jump, you have food poisoning and need gatorade, you're postpartum and you need nipple cream and stool softeners, for example). If you NEED feminine hygiene products and he is unwilling this once to get them, that's a big problem. I'm sure he's embarrassed - but hey - overcome it. And don't mention it.
If this is a case where she just never buys her own products or treats it like we need milk and eggs, that's a different thing IMHO. Or worse, if she's flexing her muscles and expecting him not to be the least bit uncomfortable . . . that seems unfair.
Likewise, no guy wants to carry his woman's purse. But if she's broken her ankle and needs help getting out of the car and hobbling into the emergency room, expect to carry her purse in after getting her settled without batting an eye. But you see those middle aged guys in the mall, standing by their frumpy wife who has two pairs of capris in her hand and he's carrying her purse. Um, no. Not a good look.
Good point, the opinion that's it's not a good look isn't bc he needs to hold the purse or he's not masculine or secure though, it's not a good look IMO bc he's showing he's with his Ms Bossy Pants.
eh.. no big deal for me. Why other's make it an issue is beyond me. What exactly is the problem; what other people think? Who cares what others think... do it because you care about the person you are doing it for. Big box of condoms?... ehehe... should be smirking a silent brag. Tampons? It isn't like anyone thinks he is using on himself.. lol
I've picked up feminine products for even my non-girlfriends... just because they asked me to and it was on my way. About the most awkward moment was asking the pharmacist about vaginal cream for a friend of mine that has limited English. I think she was more embarrassed than I.
Based off a topic I started in P&OC it got me thinking. If you were with an otherwise great guy that was romantic, nice, compassionate, caring etc. etc. but he said he he felt uncomfortable buying you any feminine hygiene products, would it be something you would view as a negative? I have had girlfriends in the past and or me it's never been a big deal, I have bought pads, tampons etc. before and had no problem with it. Heck, so far I bought a huge pack of pads for my current lady friend.
But for some guys it can be an issue for various reasons, so for you if a guy you were with said he just felt uncomfortable about it and didn't want to, would that be something that would bother you?
Based off a topic I started in P&OC it got me thinking. If you were with an otherwise great guy that was romantic, nice, compassionate, caring etc. etc. but he said he he felt uncomfortable buying you any feminine hygiene products, would it be something you would view as a negative? I have had girlfriends in the past and or me it's never been a big deal, I have bought pads, tampons etc. before and had no problem with it. Heck, so far I bought a huge pack of pads for my current lady friend.
But for some guys it can be an issue for various reasons, so for you if a guy you were with said he just felt uncomfortable about it and didn't want to, would that be something that would bother you?
Some men will do anything to get a jump on the competition.
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