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I think it's just a frame of mind for women who've lived by themselves and not been used to, or expected someone will run out and do something for them. No, there's no shame, people just all view asking for things from others differently. It's not even a feminine hygiene thing for me, it's that only I know exactly what I need and I like to be self-sufficient. I'm never without sparkling water, either, and that's not because there's someone around here to get it for me.
I see your point here. And lucky the man who got to bring you sparkling water and feminine products.
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If you NEED feminine hygiene products and he is unwilling this once to get them, that's a big problem. I'm sure he's embarrassed...
...expecting him not to be the least bit uncomfortable ...
If I were a woman, I'd be asking myself "why is this guy such a pansy he's freaked or embarrassed about picking up tampons for me?"
I honestly can't understand why a guy worth his salt would be embarrassed or uncomfortable. Is it some big dark secret that women menstruate?
If anything I'd think a more embarrassing scenario would be for a woman to buy these things and have a male cashier.
I don't know, maybe it's because I was raised around so many women. It just doesn't seem like a "thing" to me, or a hang up.
A long-ago gf once asked if I'd mind picking up tampons for her. I thought it was odd she'd think I or any other man would have a problem with it.
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Good point, the opinion that's it's not a good look isn't bc he needs to hold the purse or he's not masculine or secure though, it's not a good look IMO bc he's showing he's with his Ms Bossy Pants.
I just think of this as being a helpmate. Mod cut. I don't have an issue with them ruling the roost and don't really care who knows it. This is due largely to the fact I'm a pretty laid back dude and am not concerned with being in control.
If some guy wanted to call my masculinity into question or challenge my manhood or some nonsense because of this or because I was buying tampons or holding a purse, I'm more than happy to line his ass out, Mod cut..
Though come to think of it, I can't remember a time I was asked to play purse caddy.
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Would have to be dependent on his personality and character in general; if it were just that one thing that bothered him, I wouldn't get that worked up over it.
However, it reminded me of a time I was standing in line at the grocery checkout line and the man in front of me had a box of feminine product among his purchases. The clerk (who was a cut up anyway) started laughing and loudly blurted out, "Well, there goes your weekend!!!" The poor guy looked as though he wanted to die on the spot. Now, this was back in the early 1970s and many subjects were not as openly discussed as they are now.
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[quote=Griffis;48855963]I see your point here. And lucky the man who got to bring you sparkling water and feminine products.
If I were a woman, I'd be asking myself "why is this guy such a pansy he's freaked or embarrassed about picking up tampons for me?"
I honestly can't understand why a guy worth his salt would be embarrassed or uncomfortable. Is it some big dark secret that women menstruate?
If anything I'd think a more embarrassing scenario would be for a woman to buy these things and have a male cashier.
I don't know, maybe it's because I was raised around so many women. It just doesn't seem like a "thing" to me, or a hang up.
So you DO understand if a woman is uncomfortable buying them, especially with a male cashier, but you DON'T understand why a man would be uncomfortable? Really?
BTW, yes, it's awful when you're a very young woman buying them for the first year or so. You check out cashiers, making sure your cashier is a middle aged woman who isn't going to think a thing of it, and there was even a magazine ad by a tampon company that said, "the cute guy behind the counter is the least of your concerns . . . bla bla bla".
Why would you call a man a "pansy" for being embarrassed, but understand that women are (at least young women)?
I don't think we're talking about the cloth kind with straps, but that would be a good prank, if she would tell him to go get those for her, and didn't care when he came back
I used to buy them for my mother right after I got off the bus from grade school at the local corner store.
I really dont know what the big deal is.... other than the size of those pads back in the day
Honestly it is my respsonsibility to tend to these things and this issue isn't something that comes as a surprise so women should have enough common sense to have all necessary items in stock and stashed a couple places while away from home just in case they are needed.
Though come to think of it, I can't remember a time I was asked to play purse caddy.
If we're out somewhere, and it usually comes up if we're on vacation, my husband will always offer to hold my purse, camera, anything else I'm carrying, to use the bathroom unencumbered. I'm always appreciative because nothing like holding your purse straps in your teeth while you're trying to go...
I used to buy them for my mother right after I got off the bus from grade school at the local corner store.
I really dont know what the big deal is.... other than the size of those pads back in the day
Right, it's not. People just have different reasoning for their answers, which all seem to come back to: it's no big deal. I remember a time I wasn't thrilled with my ex bc he had been out all night. He called and asked if I needed anything from the store, "milk, bread, diapers, 'lady things'?" I guess he was showing what a confident, masculine male he was. He had never done the shopping.
I would have liked him to show it in ways more beneficial to the family though...different priorities. It seems almost like a non-issue, but if the OP really needs to know, then no. The responses seem to be 90% 'no big deal'.
I wouldn't have a problem buying them if they were on the shopping list. I would have a problem if I had to go get them now. That is just irresponsible.
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