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He did not ONLY have an affair, he had an affair with a minor and then he abandoned his wife. You do not need to live the rest of your life wondering when he will leave again or fool around with the neighborhood girls. You deserve a better life than that.
i've never been cheated on but i can tell u this. i'm positive you are a beautiful woman that deserves much better than this. there is someone out there who will love u and NEVER cheat on you. i know it may be the hardest thing to walk away but in this situation you have too in order to be truly happy. good luck girl .. stay strong!
YOu can't honestly believe he isn't going to cheat again.
I can tell you, he is going to do just that. If you know about 2 others he has been with, there are probably MORE.
AND on top of that he is the kind of scum that likes them young? NICE.
Thats not someone I would want around my child.
To add to what Lindsey is saying.. What are you going to do when you have a young baby sitter? How would you ever trust him then?
Two times cheating is one more then I'd care to find out about and he would surely be gone. I was pretty sure my 1st ex was cheating on me, same story as you except I think it started when I had the kid. I was in the hospital, day before going home with a high fever. We were all calling my house, he never picked the phone up until he walked in the door at 6:30 am. I guess I was blind or stupid to believe he was celebrating the birth of our child. Well, he continued to say out, when my son was 1 1/2 we seperated & divorced. That was it. Best thing I ever did.
To add to what Lindsey is saying.. What are you going to do when you have a young baby sitter? How would you ever trust him then?
Two times cheating is one more then I'd care to find out about and he would surely be gone. I was pretty sure my 1st ex was cheating on me, same story as you except I think it started when I had the kid. I was in the hospital, day before going home with a high fever. We were all calling my house, he never picked the phone up until he walked in the door at 6:30 am. I guess I was blind or stupid to believe he was celebrating the birth of our child. Well, he continued to say out, when my son was 1 1/2 we seperated & divorced. That was it. Best thing I ever did.
yanno what bothers me the most....ewwww, the thought of someone I loved, sleeping with someone else..that, in itself, would really be the deal breaker for me...do not pass go, do not collect 200.00
Will I have to give it a try again and just cross my fingers that he will never cheat on me? I am still afraid of trusting him...
No, you don't "have" to give it a try again. You gave him a second chance (as was probably reasonable) and he's shown that he can't be trusted. Get your finances and living arrangements in order to live on your own, and then ditch him. DTMFA.
time to get over to the jr college and get some job training and get ready for the inevitable.
get a good lawyer. get some support. what is sad is i am telling you to do to him what was
done to me, however i did not cheat. she was the guilty party.
Firstly, have you all gone to counselling? Secondly are you getting anything positive out of the relationship other than all the negatives from him? Do you want to stay with him to ensure that their is a father figure in your kid's life? Is he worthy of being a relatively good father figure? You need to ask yourself these questions. Pros and cons. Divorce is hard, and a child without both parents is harder. Are you willing to live in a cheating relationship for the sake of the child? Do you want to have an open relationship where you can emotionally go to other men? That is also an option. Choose wisely and take your time.
You and your kids deserve better. Do you really need them to see their dad being so careless with your feelings? Get a little respect for yourself and move out and on with your life. He probably doesnt even care if he sleeps around on you because he figures you will just take him back again.
I'm so sorry for your pain. Don't settle for less, you deserve better than that. I'm going through the same thing right know, first time for me. I'm trying to forgive him but only time will tell. He doesn't deserve anymore chances. Do what's best for you and your family. Leave.
Good luck!
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Don't settle for less, you deserve better than that. I'm going through the same thing right know, first time for me. I'm trying to forgive him but only time will tell. He doesn't deserve anymore chances. Do what's best for you and your family. Leave.
