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Old 03-17-2008, 10:07 PM
 
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Came home drunk from a St. Paddy's day party and just tried to come on to me

I was a good boy though, I brought him over to his apartment, gave him some water and motrin, and put him to bed.

I know he was drunk and frustrated from 'striking out' at the party. Mix that with the odd relationship we have and it caused his actions tonight.

When he leaned in to kiss me I could've died It was so everything I've dreamed about these past few months, but also so everything I wouldn't want it to be if you can understand my meaning.

Anyway -- I'm okay. My mind is level, but I must say my heart's feeling a little confused at the moment.

Having it so close, looking deep into his warm green eyes, feeling his arms around me only to know that I had to turn my head and say 'no' broke my already fragile heart into a thousand razor sharp pieces

Again, thanks for letting me vent; get it off my heart.

Yours,
Lior
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Old 03-17-2008, 10:10 PM
 
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and you said you rarely run into narcissism.....and rarely run into drama.......then what do you call all of this???? Hello.

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Came home drunk from a St. Paddy's day party and just tried to come on to me

I was a good boy though, I brought him over to his apartment, gave him some water and motrin, and put him to bed.

I know he was drunk and frustrated from 'striking out' at the party. Mix that with the odd relationship we have and it caused his actions tonight.

When he leaned in to kiss me I could've died It was so everything I've dreamed about these past few months, but also so everything I wouldn't want it to be if you can understand my meaning.

Anyway -- I'm okay. My mind is level, but I must say my heart's feeling a little confused at the moment.

Having it so close, looking deep into his warm green eyes, feeling his arms around me only to know that I had to turn my head and say 'no' broke my already fragile heart into a thousand razor sharp pieces

Again, thanks for letting me vent; get it off my heart.

Yours,
Lior
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Old 03-17-2008, 10:13 PM
 
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Yeah...at the end of the night, you did the right thing. It's cold comfort now, I know, but, it's just the way the cards fall sometimes. And, far be it from me to be a sap when it comes to all of this, but seriously, if he can't see you for what you are and for what you do for him...it's time to move on. The yin to your yang is out there, telling the same story from the opposite side right now. Just keep looking, hon.
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Old 03-17-2008, 10:26 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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My mind is level, but I must say my heart's feeling a little confused at the moment.

Having it so close, looking deep into his warm green eyes, feeling his arms around me only to know that I had to turn my head and say 'no' broke my already fragile heart into a thousand razor sharp pieces

Again, thanks for letting me vent; get it off my heart.

Yours,
Lior
Guess you're looking for a relationship... You know, as cliche as it sounds, life IS too short! Perhaps sometimes you should just grab what you want when the opportunity presents itself.

I'll give you a couple of examples from my life - both things were to put it bluntly one-weekend stands. The difference was that one was clearly so, while the other turned into a marriage not too long thereafter when it should've stayed what it was. I had a lovely memory of the former for about a month and still think of it fondly occasionally (it was something I needed at the time). That's not quite the case with the latter.
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Old 03-17-2008, 10:44 PM
 
Location: Too far from the beach, NJ
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Came home drunk from a St. Paddy's day party and just tried to come on to me

I was a good boy though, I brought him over to his apartment, gave him some water and motrin, and put him to bed.

I know he was drunk and frustrated from 'striking out' at the party. Mix that with the odd relationship we have and it caused his actions tonight.

When he leaned in to kiss me I could've died It was so everything I've dreamed about these past few months, but also so everything I wouldn't want it to be if you can understand my meaning.

Anyway -- I'm okay. My mind is level, but I must say my heart's feeling a little confused at the moment.

You're not perfect, babe. I can understand that you want him to be the one for you, but it might not work out like that.

Let me know if you want me to be there for you, I will.

Having it so close, looking deep into his warm green eyes, feeling his arms around me only to know that I had to turn my head and say 'no' broke my already fragile heart into a thousand razor sharp pieces

Again, thanks for letting me vent; get it off my heart.

Yours,
Lior
let me know
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Old 03-17-2008, 10:54 PM
 
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Thanks guys. FYI, for those of you who didn't read my post from a couple weeks ago, I'm a gay man and he's my best (straight) guy friend.

I appreciate the well wishes. I am fine, he does see who I am, but in our case we can never be more than just friends. He does love me very deeply and I think it confuses him (hence the alcohol tonight adding fuel to it for him).

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Old 03-17-2008, 10:55 PM
 
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and you said you rarely run into narcissism.....and rarely run into drama.......then what do you call all of this???? Hello.
You must've missed my post when I said I had my own drama.

And..he's not narcisstic and he's not gay.

Thanks for your concern though
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Old 03-17-2008, 11:01 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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And..he's not narcisstic and he's not gay.

Thanks for your concern though
I forgot this little detail... Oh, well, sorry then...
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Old 03-17-2008, 11:02 PM
 
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No apology necessary. I know it's a bit confusing. Even for me
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Old 03-17-2008, 11:28 PM
 
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You did the right thing..... Drunk and horny is a dangerous thing...
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