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I think she is clean. Its not burning when I pee yet. Still using protection because why take another chance?
Fingers crossed.
If you think that's the only symptom, you'd better keep your fingers crossed.
However,realistically, do what you can, with a condom and keep the fingers crossed.
I realize things have progressed, and now you know this person has some uneasy-making traits, but that you're starting to like her. That you don't want her moving in. Tell her you're not ready for the serious that way, yet. Just tell her. There's nothing wrong with that at all; in fact I applaud you in your knowing what you want, and don't want, to deal with in a girlfriend but your comments about this woman early on sound like you're talking about a commodity, an item for your pleasure, something that needs no respect...almost like you're saying, 'too bad if feelings get hurt, that's her problem, not mine." It's all fine, too, if y'all are just each other's pieces of ass... as long as y'all are up front about it going in. I'm not saying you actually think these things, I'm saying that's how you come across in this thread. Like someone who has little respect for women. My interpretation, that's all... but, I don't know you personally, just what I've read here.
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Who did I insult and what was the insult?
This right here seems insulting to me, and you didn't even know she was on the clingy side, then:
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I'm glad you brought this up. What is the best way to get a woman like this to leave your apartment without offending her? Like, if I have sex with her this Friday and she won't leave, what is the best way to get her out?
Why not just say... something along the lines of, "hey sorry but it won't work for you to sleep over all night here, yet... that you need to get some sleep..." You know, try to be upfront and not try to trick her. I say if she won't leave, ask her too, don't pull some chicken-butt move. Just say it, as nicely as you can. That's all
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When did I say all I want is sex?
See the bolded below... It's a tad insulting, as well.
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She hasn't texted or tried to call again after I ignored her call. The thing is I still want to sleep with her, but not if she is nuts lol.
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8 texts next day and 2 dates ahead planning would be red flags to me. Tell her you will let her know in a few days if you are available for dates. If she does not get it and keep texting- I would proceed very carefully and slowly if at all.
Just read more of your posts and want to let you know that my advice pertains to adults. Both of you behave like you are 15 y. o.
It looks like both of you should not be involved in adult behavior like sex for example- you are both sound as extremely immature.
8 texts next day and 2 dates ahead planning would be red flags to me. Tell her you will let her know in a few days if you are available for dates. If she does not get it and keep texting- I would proceed very carefully and slowly if at all.
Just read more of your posts and want to let you know that my advice pertains to adults. Both of you behave like you are 15 y. o.
It looks like both of you should not be involved in adult behavior like sex for example- you are both sound as extremely immature.
Too late. He's already had unprotected sex with her.
She hasn't done anything offensive to really justify dropping her, but I can tell she wants commitment by V-day and I'm just not in the same boat.
Usually its easy to dump girls because they are already lukewarm on me or they do something crazy, but she is very into me and hasn't done anything bad. I'm just not that into her and can't give her what she needs. I stopped kissing her and having sex with her a week ago and she isn't taking the hint.
I get the feeling she will go into deep depression or go nuts if I drop her because she likes me so much. What is the easiest way to slip out of this?
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Yeah... so I want out of this relationship.
She hasn't done anything offensive to really justify dropping her, but I can tell she wants commitment by V-day and I'm just not in the same boat.
Usually its easy to dump girls because they are already lukewarm on me or they do something crazy, but she is very into me and hasn't done anything bad. I'm just not that into her and can't give her what she needs. I stopped kissing her and having sex with her a week ago and she isn't taking the hint.
I get the feeling she will go into deep depression or go nuts if I drop her because she likes me so much. What is the easiest way to slip out of this?
What I bolded is exactly what you should tell her. Insist the problem is with you and not her. I had that convo with my ex a couple of weeks ago and it wasn't that hard.
What I bolded is exactly what you should tell her. Insist the problem is with you and not her. I had that convo with my ex a couple of weeks ago and it wasn't that hard.
Yep.
Then you're gonna have to delete and block everywhere if she won't comply. But just have the conversation.
If you're seriously worried about her mental state if you end it, it's just one more reason to end it.
Either that and she'll deal with it like most people and you're more egotistical than you think you are.
There is no 'easy' way...just the right way...sooner than later and as gently but firmly as possible
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