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She said she was nervous at first and claimed the bar in her closet collapsed and that she wanted to sort through it since it was already down. I know it sounds completely ridiculous.
You bet your backside it does!
You go ahead and spend all that time going up there Wednesday and in the meantime, I'll sit here and the sweetest thoughts about your judgement.
Is straightening out my closet better or worse than I had to sort my socks?
Extremely
As others have said, as any reasonable person should realize, punctuality is showing respect for the other person and their time.
Of course things happen.
As for what you described in the OP, it's up to you, of course, how to proceed. If you've had enough, I don't think anyone would blame you. If you want to give it another chance, that's up to you to.
She said she was nervous at first and claimed the bar in her closet collapsed and that she wanted to sort through it since it was already down. I know it sounds completely ridiculous.
That's because it is. And on so many different levels.
I had a first date scheduled for Saturday afternoon with a girl from an OLD site. She lives in a tiny town in southwest Virginia, and there is virtually nothing to do there. It's over fifty miles from a town with a Target, for context.
She was supposed to meet me for lunch at 12, and we were going bowling after. She said she was running behind about 11:30 - OK, I'm not a stickler, and had some cleaning to do anyway. 1 rolls around and she still isn't ready. She finally leaves her house about 3, which means it's 4 before she'll get down here. I told her just to forget it. I had other stuff I needed to get done Saturday.
She apologized and wants me to come up there tomorrow night. It's an hour from where I work, and an hour and a half back to my condo. She's wanting to go see a movie. I want to give her a chance, but I'm irritated that Saturday just got wasted.
How important is for your dates to be punctual?
What??? No. Just no.
FOUR hours late?
I wouldn't be anxious to see her when she finally figured I was important enough not to be four hours late for. Not feeling this one, frankly.
We were supposed to go out a week or two ago, but she ended up having the flu.
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She said she was nervous at first and claimed the bar in her closet collapsed and that she wanted to sort through it since it was already down. I know it sounds completely ridiculous.
you gotta be sh..tting me??? First cancels for "the flu", then let's you wait 4 hours because she rather sorts through her closet???
Bahahahhahahahaha. This is funny. OMG. Come on, dude. You deserve better.
A thought....
Some people have a really hard time saying "no thanks". Rather than just coming out and declining an invitation they make excuses for why they never showed up or cancel at the last minute.
A thought....
Some people have a really hard time saying "no thanks". Rather than just coming out and declining an invitation they make excuses for why they never showed up or cancel at the last minute.
Because they are spineless cowards and liars, for the most part. You could just say - Not interested, Thanks.
you gotta be sh..tting me??? First cancels for "the flu", then let's you wait 4 hours because she rather sorts through her closet???
Bahahahhahahahaha. This is funny. OMG. Come on, dude. You deserve better.
Well, the flu is legit. That stuff is raging like wildfire right now.
But the closet story is wrong on so many levels:
1) It's likely a lie;
2) It means that, if true, it actually took her three hours to put up a bar in her closet and hang up her clothes. Not exactly a sign of intelligence; or
3) That, if true, she couldn't be bothered to call him during the entirety of her closet salvage efforts.
This woman is ridiculous. It's nothing to do with punctuality in this case. Hope you don't waste anymore of your time on her.
In general, punctuality is super important to me. Like my family and friends know I will show up on the exact time I say I will. Back in the day I had a promising first date, where the guy was later for our second. I was just starting to get huffy when he came flying up to my house, and it turned out he was late because he was shopping and making a picnic lunch to go with our planned boat ride and he got a bit behind. So I forgave him. Been married 24 years now! And it turns out he's as much of a stickler about time as I am, but we're all human and make mistakes sometimes.
Punctuality is generally important to me. Not just in dating, but in life.
What's going on with this woman exists independently of punctuality issues, though.
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