This man sent his date an invoice after she ghosted him (husband, friendship)
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If just did the first meeting to determine if we wanted to have a date and sent that message (minus the safety part) I wouldn't consider it ghosting if they never responded. They just weren't interested.
There needs to be some time of established rapport for there to be ghosting in my book. I had it happen shortly after I moved to Providence, we went out 8 times or so over 6 weeks, then dropped off the face of the earth. That's ghosting. I ran into her maybe 4 months later and she said sorry, but whatever, that was ghosting in my book.
Define meeting vs date? What if you had dinner as a first or second meeting? A two hour date? Sex on the first date? When does this ghosting line start?
Define meeting vs date? What if you had dinner as a first or second meeting? A two hour date? Sex on the first date? When does this ghosting line start?
You really don't want to get into the "meet" vs "date" discussion here. Trust me just this one time...
Hands up, that was me, guilty as charged.
I was unaware of that rule, but ignorance of the law/rules is no defence.
If I was to run a red light in the U.S., I don’t think telling the cop that I didn’t know it was wrong would help me.
There are times, when I’ve maybe just had a long phone call in French, or read or written an email in French, that my brain is still thinking in French, perhaps this was one of those times, but to reiterate, I didn’t know it was forbidden, but I do now, and I apologise to the moderators, I’ll strive to rein it in.
I’d like a second offence taken into consideration for apology, my post # 193, in reply to Catgirl.
My use of the French phrases for “I am deeply sorryâ€, and “what a shameâ€, stem from my being an incurable romantic, I just thought that in addressing a woman, using the beautiful language might make her think, “okay, maybe this guy’s full of it in using French to me, but it sounds nice, and he means no harm.â€
No apology required. I don't remember most of my high school and college French, but I do remember that much.
I agree that the bottom line is that it is about rejection. The person who does not get what he or she wants is disappointed. In this case I would bet my left ovary that even if the girl had officially answered with a no, this guy would have screamed. It isn't about the money because if she had given him the reaction he wanted, the money would have been of no consequence.
I suspect you are right, and many of the comments so far in this thread would tend to reinforce that impression.
How would you know? Is that opinion based on your obvious distrust and perhaps hatred for men that you seem to have, at least on this forum?
Of course you are not bothered that a woman potentially violated men's privacy by publishing all this information for everyone to see? At some point, this would probably be a crime...
I was under the impression that she did not share his identity, or anything that might have revealed it.
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Define meeting vs date? What if you had dinner as a first or second meeting? A two hour date? Sex on the first date? When does this ghosting line start?
Ghosting starts when you have an established rapport. Not one meeting, or one date. If I meet someone at a bar and we go home that night and I reach out and don't hear back, it's not ghosting in my book. It's just that she isn't interested, and she doesn't owe me squat.
I personally would not care if a woman ghosted on me, whether it was the first date or the 5th.
It's one of those, "is what it is" or "charge it to the game" things.
So if she ghosted you after months/years of dating, you'd still think the same?
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