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well im not stupid . i just wanna see whats goign on. if i see nothing happening then bye.
And to be honest, maybe to have sex with him sooner than later before any attachment happens/.
You've got to be kidding me.
Talk about confusing. In one post you say "I want to get to know him better before having sex" and then other posts "we sext, I invited him to stay over, maybe we'll have sex sooner rather than later".
OP - no matter what we say, you're going to do what you want to do. So good luck to you.
of course there are others but i hate multidating and I have no energy to give to each single guy that may approach.
No one said anything about multi-dating.
And you're giving your energy to the wrong guy. Going through friends tends to work better, or through other avenues, where you may already know people a little. Through some kind of community activities, perhaps.
we said to hold off for sex till we know each other better and we agreed to do foreplay but i couldnt on Sunday and I asked him to meet for a hug and a kiss at late evening, which as you read above, he basically avoided a bit.
Then no word. Its a pattern that we communicate daily.
So I dunno i think he may have lost interest
A pattern implies long term....in your case a month....4 dates does not qualify for long term.
I would be less available if it were me.....because you sound almost desperate for his attention. Neediness is not at all attractive.
A pattern implies long term....in your case a month....4 dates does not qualify for long term.
I would be less available if it were me.....because you sound almost desperate for his attention. Neediness is not at all attractive.
Not only that, but it sounds odd, to make a date for foreplay. How much more indication does the OP need, that he's dating her for sex? He couldn't be more clear about it, if he wore a T-shirt saying that.
Here's another tip, OP. Don't talk about sex with someone you haven't had or are not prepared to have sex with right then (rather than "someday."). It's crass and cockteasing. Save it for when you are an intimate couple.
OP, I think we've already concluded from your other thread, that he cannot be trusted, in other words, he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear. That's why you're confused; he's not being honest. One moment, he says he wants to take things slowly, the next moment, he wants to take you away on a weekend trip, and yet another moment, he says he's bored with his life, and wants excitement, and asks if you are "up to the challenge". This, plus sex talk at various times (in spite of his saying he wants to take things slowly).
All this, on a background of having seen each other only 4 times.
And the whole thing about wanting to "make you happy" is odd. It's as if he's already talking about a long future together, which is clearly inappropriate (as you gently pointed out to him, but he missed the point), and he's stating that as your partner, his mission in life (he claims) would be to make you happy.
That is way over the top. It's as if he's spouting romantic lines he learned from films, because he thinks this is what wins women over. Yet you're only in the beginning stage of getting to know each other. You're not getting engaged; you're only trying to become acquainted with each other. Yet already (supposedly), he wants to dedicate himself to making you happy.
How did you meet this guy? I think you like the attention, so you've become a little bit attached to the attention, but his talk isn't making sense, and in some ways, he's contradicting himself in his attempts to impress you, so you're confused. He's trying to move too fast, while pretending to want to "take things slowly".
You need to let this one go. For your own peace of mind. If there's this much confusion (and dishonesty, and subtle pushiness) at this early stage, it's a warning sign, IMO. Things will not improve. You'll probably end up compromising yourself, and then regretting it, and he will move on to someone else, and then how will you feel?
News flash: some men will say one thing, while intending to do something very differently, just to get what they want out of a woman. This is the man you're dealing with. Believe it, and work on finding someone else.
But she is sending out mixed signals too. First she "basically promised sex when he gets back" Invited him to spend the night, then claims that she did no such thing in her other thread.
He's into hitting that booty son, as someone I know would say. He's dropping all kinds of nice talk on ya, yet he's doing the sexual flirty thing too much, even after you said to chill out. Why you would bring up him looking at your butt doesn't make much sense, matter of fact it's getting into that other word for Rooster teasing if you ask me. Don't tell him to go slow then quiz him if he's checking out the rump.
None of this is making much sense to me, but I'm not fluent in the language "confused and flip-flop" either, so what do I know?
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In one post you say "I want to get to know him better before having sex" and then other posts "we sext, I invited him to stay over, maybe we'll have sex sooner rather than later". 
