Dr. compliments me at every appointment [MERGED] (married, male, older)
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He has complimented my smile, my shoes and has says "you always look nice." He is also a bit touchy feely. How can I figure out if he is hitting on me? He is around my age, in case it matters.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 05-23-2021 at 11:42 AM..
Reason: Merged 2 threads on same topic.
I’m gonna share a funny story about the security guard at my job.
He is older than I am and always super friendly. Says hi, calls the elevator for me, holds open the door, compliments me on my outfit, etc.
One day I am walking by, the usual chatter happens and he goes “Jade, I want to tell you something.”
Me: sure (thinking in my head uh oh)
Him: I just have to tell you the reason I am so friendly to you. But let me preface this by saying I have been happily married for 20 years.
Me: I assumed you are friendly and chatty
Him: I am, but that’s not why. I am nice to you because I think you are pretty. Just wanted to let you know. Have a good day.
So OP - he could want your business. Or he is a flirt. Or he thinks you are cute or for nothing else than chatting with a cute person.
He has complimented my smile, my shoes and has says "you always look nice." He is also a bit touchy feely. How can I figure out if he is hitting on me? He is around my age, in case it matters.
What sort of Dr is this? Are these general consultations or something that requires him to be "touchy feely"? A casual touch on the shoulder before starting a procedure may just be to put you at ease. There is a male nurse practitioner at my GP's practice who does this but it's easy to see that it isn't personal. A touch that lingers when it's no longer necessary might be different. Compliments like the ones you described are fairly non-specific and may just be ice-breaker conversation. You could say them to pretty much anyone. If he'd said you look hot and keeps getting more and more specific over time, well, that's different.
What sort of Dr is this? Are these general consultations or something that requires him to be "touchy feely"? A casual touch on the shoulder before starting a procedure may just be to put you at ease. There is a male nurse practitioner at my GP's practice who does this but it's easy to see that it isn't personal. A touch that lingers when it's no longer necessary might be different. Compliments like the ones you described are fairly non-specific and may just be ice-breaker conversation. You could say them to pretty much anyone. If he'd said you look hot and keeps getting more and more specific over time, well, that's different.
He has complimented my smile, my shoes and has says "you always look nice." He is also a bit touchy feely. How can I figure out if he is hitting on me? He is around my age, in case it matters.
There's a simple solution here: get a new doctor. Problem solved. He shouldn't be flirting with his patients; he knows that. Even if (hypothetically) he were interested in a relationship, how would you know he's not doing the same with other patients? Is that the kind of situation you'd want to be involved with?
This is ridiculous, OP, If you want a relationship, get out and start circulating. Develop your social life. Don't look for liaisons in inappropriate contexts. And yes, get a new doctor.
Whoa that would be interesting... especially after just having stuffed a turkey I couldn’t imagine a gynecologist and having those types of thoughts on top of it.
It doesn't have to be that personal to get skeeved out by a male doctor. The dermatologist I saw a few months ago had me disrobe in front of him (with no support staff in the exam room), offered no disposable gown or even a paper drape. He is the first male doctor I agreed to go to for over ten years now, and instant regret. I flat out refuse to see male doctors of any sort anymore.
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