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Why didn't he just end the marriage so that he could do as he wished without resorting to deceiving his family? I don't have much respect for dishonest people who want to keep the benefits of both a committed relationship and an affair.
Maybe because it's not that easy to just end a marriage after 20 years. Lots of people stay in marriages they don't want to be in and far longer than they should because of the very same ideologies that fuel the judgment here.
Another consideration would be why one would make these promises when you can't guarantee that you'll be the same person in 20 years, let alone your spouse.
And "love, honor and cherish" goes both ways, doesn't it? Isn't that another way of saying don't neglect your spouse? He said he did it because it made him feel appreciated. She acknowledged her role in the demise of their marriage. So one can infer he felt neglected. She's just not going the distance wrt responsibility. She plays a role in the marriage ending but not his cheating? That's just not rational.
Why didn't he just end the marriage so that he could do as he wished without resorting to deceiving his family? I don't have much respect for dishonest people who want to keep the benefits of both a committed relationship and an affair.
He did....from the article. It takes a bit of time for things to get bad enough before people act on them.
“....until one day, after more than 20 years of marriage, my husband told me he was leaving and not coming back.”
I edited my post. She acknowledged her a role in the ending of their marriage but not the infidelity. It absolutely can be true that she contributed to the latter. And he left her.
Just sounds like a way to escape personal responsibility for lack of self control.
Nah, it's just the reality of relationships, all kinds. People often end them because needs are not being met. They cheat for the same reason. No one is arguing personal responsibility. He obviously did it. The issue is shared responsibility.
Infidelity is a choice. It's not a natural consequence.
It is a choice and a consequence. The drive toward it is totally natural.
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