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Having a car and being physically active and in shape aren't mutually exclusive.
I do agree with the point that a job and a house and reliable transportation along with hobbies and interests are just the bare minimum of being a functional adult. They don't make anyone special or a better dating candidate. I am getting the hint from the OP that he might be one of those "I tell it like it is" kind of people who confuse authenticity and tact with rudeness.
1. Then why are there "adults" who lack a job, house and reliable transportation that still have girlfriends? Seems to me like those aren't a prerequisite of being in a relationship.
Do you see the same prostitute or do you switch it up?
I've gone to visit over 12 of them in the past 5 years. Some I've gone back to multiple times, others it was a one time thing, depending on how things went and how attractive they were.
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Originally Posted by FreeIceCream ... It felt like I was getting back at them for rejecting me, sort of like "You denied me, well I can still get a girl to do what I want."
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May I gently say that I find the above statement rather alarming.
Why?
Because I'm a man that when life tells me "No" I give life the finger and say "I don't care what you say, I'm going to get what I want regardless"?
I've found that money cuts right thru life's hoops and BS it throws up against you.
Basically, I want sex with the least amount of effort, time and money investment possible. For me, that's been having a good job, making good money, and being able to afford a hot escort every couple weeks.
It seems like a waste of time to go out, hang out in bars (or wherever), attempt to make friends with women, only to go home alone and rejected at the end of the night. Not saying that always happens but the possibility is there. Why would I want to spend my whole evening out just to go home feeling horrible when I can spend a couple hours out, know I'm going to get sex at the end of the night, and be free to leave afterwards to return to my own life to do as I please?
While I would still love to have an emotional connection with a woman, or just with people in general, it seems like I'd have to sacrifice a lot of who I am and what I think in order to attract them to "me". So I feel like while it's not as fulfilling, I'm staying true to myself and who I really am, instead of being some smooth talking poser who's feeding women a line of crap to get into their pants.
1. Did you forget that you weren’t posting under your OP name of “free ice cream”?
2. Referring to not being able to have sex with a woman as “being denied” —that they’re “denying” this as if it is rightfully yours, gives the impression that you were ENTITLED to this. You aren’t entitled to anything and that’s why that thought is troublesome. It’s the same thought of “getting back at women” that incels in the news have expressed after acting out in violent ways.
2. If they're going to deny me sex, I will get it one way or another. It's fine for them to reject me, but don't think I'll just lay down and take it, my needs WILL be satisfied. That's why I feel there should be legal means to do so.
Well you’re doing fine then. I thought you were asking for advice here, but no. Have a good weekend.
Having a car and being physically active and in shape aren't mutually exclusive.
I do agree with the point that a job and a house and reliable transportation along with hobbies and interests are just the bare minimum of being a functional adult. They don't make anyone special or a better dating candidate. I am getting the hint from the OP that he might be one of those "I tell it like it is" kind of people who confuse authenticity and tact with rudeness.
That reminds me of people who claim to be brutally honest when in reality they're just being an ass to people.
Earlier in the thread, the OP (FreeIceCream/jimmy12345678) said he's 21 and that he lost his virginity at age 19 to a prostitute.
Now, he's saying he's been with 12 prostitutes during the past 5 years.
Maybe he's not very good at math?
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Originally Posted by FreeIceCream
I am a 21 year old male that's never had a real girlfriend in his life. I've talked to lots of girls both while still in high school and since then, but I've never made a real connection with any of them, and those that I really seemed to like rejected me.
Obviously I was not only disappointed but frustrated, both emotionally and sexually. Eventually when I was 19 I had to do something about my sexual frustration, so I visited an escort and lost my virginity, because I didn't want to enter my 20's a virgin.
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I've gone to visit over 12 of them in the past 5 years. Some I've gone back to multiple times, others it was a one time thing, depending on how things went and how attractive they were.
I don't know, FreeIceCream. I assumed you could ask your siblings or co-workers.
I've long thought there could be a thriving business with people in your situation - you have no idea why you're unable to establish a relationship. I've thought I could go to coffee, or for a drink, with you, and I'll tell you in a half hour what you're doing wrong. I'm really surprised that business hasn't come about, since there are really so many in your position, and so many people are on Online Dating Sites who never get past the first date.
I could tell you, in a half hour what the problem is.
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