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Nothing good is going to come of this until you can convince him to have an adult discussion about why he isnt attracted to you anymore. And you need to AVOID fighting and yelling.
Yu should forget about sex until you get this straightened out because he has something on his mind that isnt you. Could be things weighing on his head, like having kids too soon, unemployment, depression, whatever. Or if he is cheating.
You have to figure out how to start the discussion with him without accusing him. You need to back off of what you "need" for now until you can get him to confess something that you can work with. At least if you want to work on this relationship.
Sound sto me like you either dont know how to have a real discussion, or you are trying to avoid one for some reason.
Sounds like a textbook case of a guy who is trying to get you to break up with him. The being insulting and mean stuff is a sure sign. He’s not committed to you.
I couldn’t begin to unpack all of this without the other sides involvement.
Have you considered talking to someone (both alone and together) OP? You don’t seem to really be taking to one another.
Nobody here will be able to help you, they can only respond to what you as a single party interjects as fact.
The only thing I can say with certainly is the issues you guys are having are not purely “sex” related
Lacking sex may be a symptom but it’s not the cause. Sounds like you need some real talk to get to the bottom of it . Not I don’t think leaving is the answer until you at least make the attempt to solve it.
Maybe he has impotence issue. Maybe he is lacking testosterone. Maybe he has a porn addiction or maybe he is actually gay. Impossible for us to advise you!
live life thru your own eyes...not the reflections of others..
if hes being a dud...tell him that …. we all need some straight talk when we go off the rails..
or
buy a few "toys" online and do your thing while he is going to sleep ….you can name that toy his name....or to get your point across … some other guys name..
at 32 he should be mounting you just about every night.....knowing a woman is in her prime in her 30's
if he is depressed being out of work...tell him you want to be there for him...on All levels.
live life thru your own eyes...not the reflections of others..
if hes being a dud...tell him that …. we all need some straight talk when we go off the rails..
or
buy a few "toys" online and do your thing while he is going to sleep ….you can name that toy his name....or to get your point across … some other guys name..
at 32 he should be mounting you just about every night.....knowing a woman is in her prime in her 30's
if he is depressed being out of work...tell him you want to be there for him...on All levels.
out of work ...doesn't mean out of sex..
But it's not just the sex thing. He's being downright mean to her and has been for years. That's a different matter entirely.
I don't get all the "maybe he is stressed about not having a job," "maybe he has a stomach problem," "maybe he's stressed about the kids," etc., etc., being used as excuses.
If any of those things caused this, the guy would not be cruel and mean to the OP but alarmed at his anger/inability to perform/disinterest and seeking help for it.
I don't get all the "maybe he is stressed about not having a job," "maybe he has a stomach problem," "maybe he's stressed about the kids," etc., etc., being used as excuses.
If any of those things caused this, the guy would not be cruel and mean to the OP but alarmed at his anger/inability to perform/disinterest and seeking help for it.
Not true many men who struggle with stress/impotence/anger have a hard time processing this type of trauma. They internalize their emotions and let it build only to take it out on those closest to them. Many of these “men” do need serious help to manage all of these things.
A little communication, exercise, and therapy will go a long way to getting them back to their true selves.
Not true many men who struggle with stress/impotence/anger have a hard time processing this type of trauma. They internalize their emotions and let it build only to take it out on those closest to them. Many of these “men” do need serious help to manage all of these things.
A little communication, exercise, and therapy will go a long way to getting them back to their true selves.
I won't discount what you are saying because it's outside of my experience but the OP is insane to remain with someone who would treat her that way. A 32 year old man who is incapable of asking for help but instead internalizes rage and takes it out on his partner is one who should be put out to pasture until he grows up or seeks help. She should not have to beg a grown up to get help.
He's not too enraged to ask her to 'service him' so the impotence thing is questionable. I did not know the backstory of the OP but reading comments here indicates he has been cruel to her for a long time. What I don't get is why people put up with this stuff? Life is too short to live in misery.
Yeah he is we broke up for 6mos but got back together
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