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Ok so my boyfriend and I are both 32yrs old and have been together for 11years. We have 2 children together 11 and 9. But for the last year or so anytime I want to be intimate I am the one who has to initiate it. It will only start if I Mod cut.. Ok then we immediately move to the main course which half the time he Mod cut.. Ok then we barely ever fool around anyway because 90 percent of the time if I try he says no hes not in the mood so were barely intimate regardless. But now something worse happened when my bf wasn't home i spent 2 hours taking a shower blow drying my hair straightening my hair putting on makeup and a sexy new lingerie outfit i went all out. He came home seen me in the bed didn't say a word turned on his side and started messing with his phone. Ok so I tried to touch him to get his attention an he says no I don't feel like it. Which would have been fine with if he at least would have maybe kissed me an said I look good or something. Which he did not so I sit there for a while longer hoping he'd do something, anything and when he didn't I said well I must be very disgusting or ugly because u could have at least looked at me an kissed me to this he said I should just grow up he is allowed to not want to have sex with me. Well other situations kinda similar have happened a lot in last year or so but this really killed me. Also if he's in the mood all he will say is give me Mod cut. that's all I want to do. Well this all really hurts me an I have decided I won't be doing that to him anymore until he realizes I have needs to an that he needs to start initiating it. Also if he would want to fool around an I don't feel like it I'm called a cheating ***** which I don't cheat so idk just trying to figure out what to do I can't keep feeling like this. Btw everytime we fight he makes mean comments about my looks an stuff like saying buckteeth or my woman parts aren't good enough or whatever an I can't take it but I love him an have 2 kids together plus after 11 years I don't who just throw it away
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He became a daddy at very young age, then you had a second child. I am assuming he just lost interest of being intimate with you. Perhaps he has someone else on the side?
How is he with kids? Does he work? Helps with household?
Is that just sex life that is suffering, or overall family life? Is he using drugs?
Well truthfully our first child is not his she was 6 months old when we met but her bio dad was never in the picture so he raised her as his own he gets along just fine with them but I do 90 percent of whatever the kids need like getting ready for school an dinner etc yeah but he says he's still very attracted to me an Also why is a healthy 32 yr old man not able to keep it up half the time he says he has stomach pain a lot but that's been going on for quite some time and he just won't go to a dr
Yeah but then after he says whatever mean comments will say you know I don't mean anything I say I'm just an a**hole so its like I know he's a jerk but idk
He is currently laid off btw an trying to find work he's a constructive worker an so the winter things get tight but this has been going on for a while
Ok so my boyfriend and I are both 32yrs old and have been together for 11years. We have 2 children together 11 and 9. But for the last year or so anytime I want to be intimate I am the one who has to initiate it. It will only start if I [snip]. Ok then we immediately move to the main course which half the time he [snip]. Ok then we barely ever fool around anyway because 90 percent of the time if I try he says no hes not in the mood so were barely intimate regardless. But now something worse happened when my bf wasn't home i spent 2 hours taking a shower blow drying my hair straightening my hair putting on makeup and a sexy new lingerie outfit i went all out. He came home seen me in the bed didn't say a word turned on his side and started messing with his phone. Ok so I tried to touch him to get his attention an he says no I don't feel like it. Which would have been fine with if he at least would have maybe kissed me an said I look good or something. Which he did not so I sit there for a while longer hoping he'd do something, anything and when he didn't I said well I must be very disgusting or ugly because u could have at least looked at me an kissed me to this he said I should just grow up he is allowed to not want to have sex with me. Well other situations kinda similar have happened a lot in last year or so but this really killed me. Also if he's in the mood all he will say is give me [snip]. Well this all really hurts me an I have decided I won't be doing that to him anymore until he realizes I have needs to an that he needs to start initiating it. Also if he would want to fool around an I don't feel like it I'm called a cheating ***** which I don't cheat so idk just trying to figure out what to do I can't keep feeling like this. Btw everytime we fight he makes mean comments about my looks an stuff like saying buckteeth or my woman parts aren't good enough or whatever an I can't take it but I love him an have 2 kids together plus after 11 years I don't who just throw it away
Your BF is a disgusting pig!!!!
What the hell? You don't need more sex from this guy; you need to leave the disgustingly abusive loser BF and find your self-respect and get it back.
No person who loves and respects you would EVER treat you that way or say those disgusting words to you--NEVER!
My friend, you have some negative and harmful beliefs about your self-worth that are on constant "replay" in your head. What you, apparently, say to yourself about your self-worth and intrinsic value as a human being is dead-on wrong. YOU are an important person to me and to many, many other people who walk this earth. I truly hope you find a way to become important to yourself. You have value to us, great value. I truly hope you find a way to find and see the value in yourself.
But he does do a lot around the house an otherwise we get along perfectly this is our only issue
Right now he might be frustrated about not having a job - that affects sex life.
Otherwise, he might have some physical or mental health problems. Did he go to the doctor?
Does he watch porn? There's a link between porn watching & sexual dysfunction in young men, study finds...
Looking at the albums in goochgirl's profile, they look like a very nice (and happy) family.
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