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I'm a good looking, albeit slightly short (5'8") man, a self-employed architect, but not wealthy. I've only been in love once a long time ago (22 years now,) she was basically the spitting image of late 90s Kelly Brook (and looked like a female me.) Being young and stupid I messed this up as I broke her trust. I've dated multiple women similar to her since then but never fell in love again and I've never once in my life found a woman much less than this physically attractive.
But being older now (though I still look young,) pretty much all good looking women at my age are hard work and high maintenance, so I'm told to "lower my standards." This means dating a woman I've no attraction too. I've tried dating "average" looking women twice in the past, there was a good emotional connection both times and we got on well (both women treated me far better) but no love, I had no physical attraction to them at all and I hated having sex with both. So should I even consider this? The first one I dated remarked I'd never fall in love with her, and she went back to her previous boyfriend.
Um....pardon my obtuseness, but if you hated having sex with them, why did you do it? You had the option not to, you know. Are you still f-ing them, even though you supposedly hate it?
I'm a good looking, albeit slightly short (5'8") man.
You say this A LOT.
Post pics and back it up then. Take a lot of selfies in real time, too, of you on the keyboard with "City Data-R" on the screen to show you're not faking. You're either fooling yourself, or trolling for entertainment.
I'm a good looking, albeit slightly short (5'8") man, a self-employed architect, but not wealthy. I've only been in love once a long time ago (22 years now,) she was basically the spitting image of late 90s Kelly Brook (and looked like a female me.) Being young and stupid I messed this up as I broke her trust. I've dated multiple women similar to her since then but never fell in love again and I've never once in my life found a woman much less than this physically attractive.
But being older now (though I still look young,) pretty much all good looking women at my age are hard work and high maintenance, so I'm told to "lower my standards." This means dating a woman I've no attraction too. I've tried dating "average" looking women twice in the past, there was a good emotional connection both times and we got on well (both women treated me far better) but no love, I had no physical attraction to them at all and I hated having sex with both. So should I even consider this? The first one I dated remarked I'd never fall in love with her, and she went back to her previous boyfriend.
I hear you there, sir. It sounds like a good idea in theory, but I don't think it is something that could be done practically. After all, we either find someone attractive or we do not, so there is no way around that part. Last time I figured I would settle for an average girl did not really work out in the long term
I find many women attractive in everyday life, but they are never single. Personally, I dont think it is worthwhile trying to make things work with someone who you dont feel the "spark" for.
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SEEMS like it'd be difficult to get them in bed if it WAS the case, I would think.
Some guys are good characters and some guys beat their stick to feet. Not that difficult to have sex with someone your not attracted to. I just wouldn’t be able to do it myself.
I think it's okay for a man in his 40s to date women in their 20s, as long as you understand they aren't going to be where you are at financially. People who are half your age will earn about half what you do. They may also have different interests.
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