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If you are 30 years old and single, is that weird? The reason why I ask this is because I’m going to be in grad school until I’m 27, and I am not going to be in any hurry to find anyone from there. I’m going to be busy getting my career going. I also feel that there are so many things that I wanna do and so much money that I need to make before I can be with someone.
No, not at all. I've known several men who were single at that age (in most cases, they'd had previous relationships). Just my own anecdotal observation: that seems to be around the age when a lot of men who have been single or bouncing around relationships start to get that urge to settle down with "the one". So your timeline isn't unusual at all.
And of course things look different from your younger age. It's natural to want to meet a lot of different people and have a lot of different experiences. Just don't get too caught up in "money that I need to make before I can be with someone." That's just silly. Certainly it's better to not be a complete pauper when you're at an age of getting serious about relationships, but you also don't want to let a good one get away just because you think you're not financially sound enough.
No, not at all. A lot of people put off relationships until they are well established in their careers. Some people go back to school, travel, volunteer, etc.
Sometimes you find the right person when you're not looking.
Take your time and don't rush it. I am 32 and still single.
If you are 30 years old and single, is that weird? The reason why I ask this is because I’m going to be in grad school until I’m 27, and I am not going to be in any hurry to find anyone from there. I’m going to be busy getting my career going. I also feel that there are so many things that I wanna do and so much money that I need to make before I can be with someone.
No, not weird at all.
In terms of the putting off the relationship for a career, it's not really smart in my mind ... unless your career is a young jazz musician or something, and you're literally travelling the world.
Your odds to get the best match will improve if you're always looking for the best match.
The 'I need to make a certain amount of $ before women will date me' is somewhat true, but that's just because women are equally dumb.
So, I don't suggest you put it off. Unless of course, you are really also looking for a woman who makes XXX,XXX and has a pHd, etc, and that's the high priority, in which case ... carry on.
Does it really matter what anyone else thinks? Live your life for yourself. Quit worrying so much about what everyone else is thinking or doing or not doing.
The emphasis is on getting married early. Most of my peers were married by 25 to their high school or college sweetheart.
I've found that people who marry young, are more likely to go through a mid-life crisis in their later years because they want to go out and date, have fun and do things they missed out on in their 20s. And of course, it won't be quite the same. I am grateful I wasn't tied down to anyone in my 20s. I had so much fun doing things that many people only dream about and I got to do them while I was still young and attractive. I had the chance to get married when I was 18 and I turned it down, because I didn't want to give the best years of my life to one person. Besides, I never saw anything romantic about "high school/college sweetheart" anyway. It's virtually meaningless to me.
If you are 30 years old and single, is that weird? The reason why I ask this is because I’m going to be in grad school until I’m 27, and I am not going to be in any hurry to find anyone from there. I’m going to be busy getting my career going. I also feel that there are so many things that I wanna do and so much money that I need to make before I can be with someone.
It's perfectly normal. Especially for recently-graduated grad students. What will your degree/s be in? If you can, find a job in the more progressive parts of the country, where people don't get married off by 25. There's a huge singles pool on the West Coast, in the NE, and in pockets of the SW. Colorado, too. In those places, it's not even weird to be single at 40, so you'll be in good company. Don't give this another thought, OP. Good luck with your career!
Does it really matter what anyone else thinks? Live your life for yourself. Quit worrying so much about what everyone else is thinking or doing or not doing.
Wise words!
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